I caved
Rar, looking at this realistically it sounds like you were putting good money after bad in your old car. Once a car starts having problems it's usually consistent. It used to irritate me that the amount of my overtime pay would always equal exactly what the current car problem was that needed to be fixed.
Is financing the amount of money that you did going to strap you so that bills aren't going to get paid?
Is financing the amount of money that you did going to strap you so that bills aren't going to get paid?
Though the additional payment will make things tighter and the revised budget doesn't have much wiggle room, it will not prevent me from making other payments, as I have savings to draw on if necessary. Thanks LadyBlue.
For sure, though I've been drinking lots of sparkling water and seltzer. That should become lesser as more time passes, though. Also, I can return my husband's empty beer cans for (lots of) extra money too. - 5 cents a can or bottle in NY. LOL
Glad you are drinking seltzer today! Hope you can get things worked out with the car - I am slightly curious about the purchase, wouldn't you have had to co-sign on it if it was purchased with financing? Usually any time there is credit issued to someone that is married both spouses need to sign the paperwork. I
Glad you are drinking seltzer today! Hope you can get things worked out with the car - I am slightly curious about the purchase, wouldn't you have had to co-sign on it if it was purchased with financing? Usually any time there is credit issued to someone that is married both spouses need to sign the paperwork. I
Resentments are the number one offender, the dubious luxury of normal (men) people. Fear of losing something I have (money) or fear of not getting something I want (security) are emotions I had to learn how to deal with.
Alcoholic wasn't the problem - it was my solution. I needed different solutions.
I am grateful today for understanding what prompted me to drink when I knew it was highly detrimental to my very existence and well being of those around me. Why did I continue to drink????
Alcoholic wasn't the problem - it was my solution. I needed different solutions.
I am grateful today for understanding what prompted me to drink when I knew it was highly detrimental to my very existence and well being of those around me. Why did I continue to drink????
Glad you have the car situation figured our for now. It is still baffling to me though that a major purchase was made without your involvement when your names are both on the account...
In the future you may want to make sure all channels of communication are better between you and your husband. There is no reason you should be left out of a major decision until after the fact, especially when your struggling with sobriety and it is a major trigger.
In the future you may want to make sure all channels of communication are better between you and your husband. There is no reason you should be left out of a major decision until after the fact, especially when your struggling with sobriety and it is a major trigger.
Glad you have the car situation figured our for now. It is still baffling to me though that a major purchase was made without your involvement when your names are both on the account...
In the future you may want to make sure all channels of communication are better between you and your husband. There is no reason you should be left out of a major decision until after the fact, especially when your struggling with sobriety and it is a major trigger.
In the future you may want to make sure all channels of communication are better between you and your husband. There is no reason you should be left out of a major decision until after the fact, especially when your struggling with sobriety and it is a major trigger.
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Rar, I must say that I think the move to purchase a newer, reliable vehicle at 0% interest was a good move. Hate to break down on your way to florida etc...
I used to own a lot of trucks for my business, and I've dumped a TON of money into repairs. Eventually I just had to bite the bullet and take on more debt. And out of service truck is worthless. Slightly different situation, but the same concept.
I used to own a lot of trucks for my business, and I've dumped a TON of money into repairs. Eventually I just had to bite the bullet and take on more debt. And out of service truck is worthless. Slightly different situation, but the same concept.
He took my car in for inspection and learned of significant repairs and cost. He spoke with the salesman, established a selling price and trade-in price on my car (held jointly), subsequently verbally agreeing to purchase.. He came home and told me what had transpired. I started drinking and during the drinking, we discussed the issue and ultimately I agreed to go to the dealer the next day. The papers had not been completed yet as the title had to be turned in and financing arranged. I test drove the vehicle yesterday and felt more comfortable with the purchase. The loan document is in both names. However, Husband has enough individual income without mine to qualify for financing on his own. Nonetheless, my name was added to the note. In any event, he could have obligated only himself, putting the title in both names. I don't know 100% if he would have actually signed and traded without me. I like to think not. We have been married 42 years
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