Originally Posted by EndGameNYC

A few people on SR have recently gotten some pretty straightforward advice, some of which was around not acting on all the good suggestions others have made for them here. Have you considered that this may also be the case with you? You generally post only when something stressful or otherwise unwanted is occurring in your life (which is a good thing, the posting part), but more or less disappear in between conflicts. I wonder whether or not your GF experiences something similar. It's one thing here on SR, where people are generally supportive and sympathetic with your plight, but living with someone is a whole different matter. From what I've been reading, she's essentially told you that whatever it is that you're doing or not doing is unacceptable for her. Building a healthy and mutually-beneficial relationship doesn't abide by formulas, the rules of logic, or what should be happening. It's much more about the honest expression of our feelings, and a willingness to be open, especially open to change. If you feel that you cannot or will not do what your GF asks, or even feel resentful when she does ask or complain, then something's gotta give.