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Old 01-17-2016, 05:37 AM
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Slipped but getting back up

For the last 2 weeks I have been drinking. However, I was "smart enough" (sarcasm here) not to drink liquor. Today I am re-committing to sobriety.

Why did I drink? I've been really stressed at work. Really realizing the relationship with my bf is not healthy nor will it ever be. We've been exclusively dating for 5 years. So basically being completely lonely, working long hours, trying to break away from a relationship and life in general is why I drank.

How am I going to achieve long term sobriety? I have no idea, but will give it all my effort each day going forward. My small group at church starts Wednesday. That will help me get out of my isolation.
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Old 01-17-2016, 06:10 AM
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Hi Sinderos!! Glad to see you hugs!!
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Old 01-17-2016, 06:22 AM
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Glad you're trying sobriety again.
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Old 01-17-2016, 06:32 AM
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Welcome back Sinderos!

Have you thought about how you're going to cope with things differently giving all that is going on from here on out?
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Old 01-17-2016, 06:37 AM
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Go for it, you can do this.

I hear you about the bad relationship -- if its really not fixable, what is keeping you there??

I ask because I stuck it out for more than 20 years because "I promised" and within two months I had been replaced and he is much happier, as am I.

But more importantly, stick to your guns in breaking up with you other bad boyfriend; congrats on day 1!
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Old 01-17-2016, 06:44 AM
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Strategy, I haven't thought of what to do to cope. This morning my head is still clearing. I woke up at 4 am, while I imagine I was in the midst of sobering up, full of anxiety. The anxiety wasn't anything like before I quit vodka though. I do need to come up with ideas on how to deal with stress.

Dropsie, I don't know why I stay in it other than right now he is my only friend outside of work. That is my fault and I am working to change that. We don't live together nor have we ever so it's just a matter of not calling or texting him. That's easier said than done though.

Thank you all for your support!
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Old 01-17-2016, 07:00 AM
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Welcome back, Sinderos.

I'm sorry for your situation. Loneliness is a trigger for many.

Happy to hear you're taking steps to rectify that.
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Old 01-17-2016, 07:20 AM
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During our meeting on friday we talked about sobriety being a journey and not a destination. This is my third go around. The cliche answer is 24 hours at a time. Its correct though. Sometimes it feels impossible for 5 minutes let alone 24 hours. Don't beat yourself up. A minor detour thats all.
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Old 01-17-2016, 07:27 AM
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Welcome bk Sinderos
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Old 01-17-2016, 07:43 AM
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Originally Posted by Sinderos View Post
My small group at church starts Wednesday. That will help me get out of my isolation.
Excellent
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Old 01-17-2016, 08:11 AM
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Group is good. Get back on your plan, and modify it to address the shortfall this lapse has revealed.

You can do it.
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Old 01-17-2016, 08:29 AM
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Old 01-17-2016, 09:54 AM
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Originally Posted by Sinderos View Post
How am I going to achieve long term sobriety? I have no idea...
You had reasons to drink: Stressed, lonely, working long hours, relationship problems. There will always be reasons to drink if you have not closed the door to alcohol for good.

There are reasons to be sober too. Good ones. Identify them and stick to it, even through the reasons to drink.
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Old 01-17-2016, 10:10 AM
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Why did I drink? I've been really stressed at work. .
Hi

I dont want to be a smarta*s - but I learned that I drink because Im an alcoholic. Not because of external reasons.

Other people have the same issues as me (e.g. stress) but dont drink. What is it that makes the difference? Being an alcoholic - in my case.

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Old 01-17-2016, 11:22 AM
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Welcome back Sinderos!! You can do this!!
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Old 01-17-2016, 04:06 PM
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How am I going to achieve long term sobriety? I have no idea
Seriously Sinderos - get some ideas.

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ery-plans.html

There's a post in another forum today about a SR member who died recently...

it may be hard to connect the dots right now from where you are but this really is life and death...

Fight this with everything you have.
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