Day 6 and going to my first meeting
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Day 6 and going to my first meeting
I'm halfway through day 6 but just called a wonderful lady from our local AA group and have arranged to go to my first meeting. She was so warm and sincere on the phone and says she will look out for me and even hold my hand if need be.
I feel like I am actually now putting some steps in place to prevent me from relapsing again, and have hope for my future for the first time in a long, long time.
Hopefully between SR, and AA meetings, as well as my doctors support I should be able to kick this alcoholism to the kerb!!! X :-)
I feel like I am actually now putting some steps in place to prevent me from relapsing again, and have hope for my future for the first time in a long, long time.
Hopefully between SR, and AA meetings, as well as my doctors support I should be able to kick this alcoholism to the kerb!!! X :-)
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Originally Posted by Nic233 
Hopefully between SR, and AA meetings, as well as my doctors support I should be able to kick this alcoholism to the kerb!!! X :-)
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That's great Nic. When's your first meeting?
If they've got a copy of Living Sober there, I'd highly recommend buying yourself a copy and reading it - it's such a helpful book. (If they don't have it there you could buy it online). It's full of wisdom and practical tips that can really help me deal with the day to day issue of dealing with life on life's terms in sobriety.
If they've got a copy of Living Sober there, I'd highly recommend buying yourself a copy and reading it - it's such a helpful book. (If they don't have it there you could buy it online). It's full of wisdom and practical tips that can really help me deal with the day to day issue of dealing with life on life's terms in sobriety.
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Originally Posted by Beccybean
That's great Nic. When's your first meeting?
If they've got a copy of Living Sober there, I'd highly recommend buying yourself a copy and reading it - it's such a helpful book. (If they don't have it there you could buy it online). It's full of wisdom and practical tips that can really help me deal with the day to day issue of dealing with life on life's terms in sobriety.
If they've got a copy of Living Sober there, I'd highly recommend buying yourself a copy and reading it - it's such a helpful book. (If they don't have it there you could buy it online). It's full of wisdom and practical tips that can really help me deal with the day to day issue of dealing with life on life's terms in sobriety.
I'll keep an eye out for that book..thanks for the recommendation !!!
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Originally Posted by venuscat
You made me smile Nic. 
I am so glad you are doing this ~ I hope you like the meeting.
It sounds like you have a really good plan in place, and that is great!
I am so glad you are doing this ~ I hope you like the meeting.
It sounds like you have a really good plan in place, and that is great!
Hope you're going well Hun x
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I bet you'll feel great afterwards - tired, but great.
Does it say what kind of meeting it is? (Big Book; General Share; or whatever?)
The important thing to remember is that everyone has been a newcomer at some point - and they will remember what that was like. And you don't have to speak at all if you don't want to - just listening and chatting before and after the meeting (and during the break if there is one) will be really helpful as it is.
When I first went I was kind of overwhelmed with the fact that people were so kind and with the relief of finally finding a group of people who seemed to understand the stuff that goes on in my head (maybe have a tissue in your pocket, just in case you're the same - lots of people do find it quite emotional - in a good way of course ).
I look forward to hearing how you got on - please give us an update later
Does it say what kind of meeting it is? (Big Book; General Share; or whatever?)
The important thing to remember is that everyone has been a newcomer at some point - and they will remember what that was like. And you don't have to speak at all if you don't want to - just listening and chatting before and after the meeting (and during the break if there is one) will be really helpful as it is.
When I first went I was kind of overwhelmed with the fact that people were so kind and with the relief of finally finding a group of people who seemed to understand the stuff that goes on in my head (maybe have a tissue in your pocket, just in case you're the same - lots of people do find it quite emotional - in a good way of course ).
I look forward to hearing how you got on - please give us an update later
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Originally Posted by Beccybean
I bet you'll feel great afterwards - tired, but great.
Does it say what kind of meeting it is? (Big Book; General Share; or whatever?)
The important thing to remember is that everyone has been a newcomer at some point - and they will remember what that was like. And you don't have to speak at all if you don't want to - just listening and chatting before and after the meeting (and during the break if there is one) will be really helpful as it is.
When I first went I was kind of overwhelmed with the fact that people were so kind and with the relief of finally finding a group of people who seemed to understand the stuff that goes on in my head (maybe have a tissue in your pocket, just in case you're the same - lots of people do find it quite emotional - in a good way of course ).
I look forward to hearing how you got on - please give us an update later
Does it say what kind of meeting it is? (Big Book; General Share; or whatever?)
The important thing to remember is that everyone has been a newcomer at some point - and they will remember what that was like. And you don't have to speak at all if you don't want to - just listening and chatting before and after the meeting (and during the break if there is one) will be really helpful as it is.
When I first went I was kind of overwhelmed with the fact that people were so kind and with the relief of finally finding a group of people who seemed to understand the stuff that goes on in my head (maybe have a tissue in your pocket, just in case you're the same - lots of people do find it quite emotional - in a good way of course ).
I look forward to hearing how you got on - please give us an update later
She sounds like she has a good sense of humor which is what I love! I will let you know how I get on once I am back again! x
And just to add- I will be taking a WAd of tissues!!! I couldn't even get thorugh my phonecall to her without bawling..I know I'll be a blubbering mess if people are kind haha!!!
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An open meeting is one where alcoholics or anyone interested in AA and how it works can go along. A closed meeting is JUST alcoholics. That means if you've got a member or family or friend you'd like to bring along for moral support, that'd be okay. One man who lived with his old mum used to bring her along to open meetings so she understood what the meetings were about and could encourage him.
Sounds like a general meeting - the secretary (who is just a member of AA - another alcoholic like us) will open with the preamble and steps, then people will talk. At some point there'll be pot passed round (you won't be expected to put any money in on your first meeting, but can if you want - it just goes towards expenses of the rent and tea / coffee etc.), there may or may not be a break. People will share. There is no cross sharing (ie. no interrupting or commenting on what others have said, unless they've asked specifically for people to give thoughts / ideas on something). Some meetings put time restrictions on shares (apparently - I've never been to one like that) if there have historically been people who talk a looooong time
. I always get a lot out of listening to others. More than talking myself. At the end there will be hand holding in a circle and a short prayer - where I am this is always the Serenity prayer, but apparently some places use the Lords prayer. Again - never had that in any meetings I've been to.
Have fun - and get lots of numbers from other ladies (maybe take a pad and pen along for that).
Sounds like a general meeting - the secretary (who is just a member of AA - another alcoholic like us) will open with the preamble and steps, then people will talk. At some point there'll be pot passed round (you won't be expected to put any money in on your first meeting, but can if you want - it just goes towards expenses of the rent and tea / coffee etc.), there may or may not be a break. People will share. There is no cross sharing (ie. no interrupting or commenting on what others have said, unless they've asked specifically for people to give thoughts / ideas on something). Some meetings put time restrictions on shares (apparently - I've never been to one like that) if there have historically been people who talk a looooong time
. I always get a lot out of listening to others. More than talking myself. At the end there will be hand holding in a circle and a short prayer - where I am this is always the Serenity prayer, but apparently some places use the Lords prayer. Again - never had that in any meetings I've been to.Have fun - and get lots of numbers from other ladies (maybe take a pad and pen along for that).
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Originally Posted by Beccybean
An open meeting is one where alcoholics or anyone interested in AA and how it works can go along. A closed meeting is JUST alcoholics. That means if you've got a member or family or friend you'd like to bring along for moral support, that'd be okay. One man who lived with his old mum used to bring her along to open meetings so she understood what the meetings were about and could encourage him.
Sounds like a general meeting - the secretary (who is just a member of AA - another alcoholic like us) will open with the preamble and steps, then people will talk. At some point there'll be pot passed round (you won't be expected to put any money in on your first meeting, but can if you want - it just goes towards expenses of the rent and tea / coffee etc.), there may or may not be a break. People will share. There is no cross sharing (ie. no interrupting or commenting on what others have said, unless they've asked specifically for people to give thoughts / ideas on something). Some meetings put time restrictions on shares (apparently - I've never been to one like that) if there have historically been people who talk a looooong time . I always get a lot out of listening to others. More than talking myself. At the end there will be hand holding in a circle and a short prayer - where I am this is always the Serenity prayer, but apparently some places use the Lords prayer. Again - never had that in any meetings I've been to.
Have fun - and get lots of numbers from other ladies (maybe take a pad and pen along for that).
Sounds like a general meeting - the secretary (who is just a member of AA - another alcoholic like us) will open with the preamble and steps, then people will talk. At some point there'll be pot passed round (you won't be expected to put any money in on your first meeting, but can if you want - it just goes towards expenses of the rent and tea / coffee etc.), there may or may not be a break. People will share. There is no cross sharing (ie. no interrupting or commenting on what others have said, unless they've asked specifically for people to give thoughts / ideas on something). Some meetings put time restrictions on shares (apparently - I've never been to one like that) if there have historically been people who talk a looooong time
. I always get a lot out of listening to others. More than talking myself. At the end there will be hand holding in a circle and a short prayer - where I am this is always the Serenity prayer, but apparently some places use the Lords prayer. Again - never had that in any meetings I've been to.Have fun - and get lots of numbers from other ladies (maybe take a pad and pen along for that).
I was given some kind of beginners pack with a small blue book. The ladies have written their numbers in and told me to call them if I want to talk. All very humbling and a very positive experience. I am going to another meeting tomorrow afternoon at another hall. Something to look forward to.
Never thought I would get so much out of sitting amongst a bunch of strangers but it was very fulfilling X
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Originally Posted by Nic233
Never thought I would get so much out of sitting amongst a bunch of strangers but it was very fulfilling X
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Originally Posted by SillyHuman
Good for you, Nic! It is great that you found such wonderful support. Keep on, keeping on, but do not forget to come here, because we would miss you terribly if you did not.
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Originally Posted by ALinNS
Excellent news and you will overcome it bud, the AV is not match for what you have in place as long as we are midful to use the tools. Have a great one Andrew
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