Not AA, then what?
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Not AA, then what?
For years, I have tried to stop drinking and using by going to AA and NA. Recently, I took the decision to find another way. Their method is simply not for me. So I am doing research on what's outthere. To those of you who have been sober without AA or NA, which method (if any) did/do you use?
Trudgin
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Welcome, glad you're here
SR link to different methods -
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...formation.html
I tried many different ways. Ultimately is was my acceptance and commitment that made the difference. Any program won't keep us sober without those, imo.
SR link to different methods -
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...formation.html
I tried many different ways. Ultimately is was my acceptance and commitment that made the difference. Any program won't keep us sober without those, imo.
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Originally Posted by Fly N Buy 
Welcome, glad you're here
I tried many different ways. Ultimately is was my acceptance and commitment that made the difference. Any program won't keep us sober without those, imo.
I tried many different ways. Ultimately is was my acceptance and commitment that made the difference. Any program won't keep us sober without those, imo.
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Our Secular Connections area of the Forum is a great read for ideas in the stickies!! 
Secular Connections - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Secular Connections - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
totfit
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I tried everything. I did AA, SOS, SMART, Therapy, etc. I found the only method that really worked was to not pick it up and pour it down my throat. Seriously, I over-complicated things and made it an insurmountable task. I just look at it as "drinking is not for me" and do something else now instead. I set goals for work, fitness, family and pursue those in a manner that does not leave a place for the destructiveness alcohol will ALWAYS cause in my life "if" I pour it down my throat. Otherwise, it has no effect at all.
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Welcome...
I think it's less about the method than the desire, readiness and willingness.
Apart from that, I can contribute that I have used a balanced approach to sobriety that has included lifestyle changes, exercise, AA, this site, meditation, gratitude, counseling and regularly, consistently CHOOSING sobriety.
I think it's less about the method than the desire, readiness and willingness.
Apart from that, I can contribute that I have used a balanced approach to sobriety that has included lifestyle changes, exercise, AA, this site, meditation, gratitude, counseling and regularly, consistently CHOOSING sobriety.
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futureve , You have to find "really" what works for you . I tried numerous times myself . AA gave me tools which still help today , but It didn't help me to stop only for a short time. I did it myself , just stayed away from it . Didn't put myself around it . I learnt my triggers . I also let my drinking friends know , so they wouldn't come over with any or offer me any .
That's the only thing that stuck for these 2 years . As "totfit" says , just don't Pour it down your throat
That's the only thing that stuck for these 2 years . As "totfit" says , just don't Pour it down your throat
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I got and stayed sober with the help of an addiction counselor and daily visits to this site. I no longer see the counselor but come here every day. It's been working for me for over five years now.
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AVRT is what worked for me.
Or maybe it just happened to be the method I landed on when I finally made the decision that I wanted to be sober more than I wanted to drink.
I don't really "do" anything now except live my life as a non-drinker and be thankful for how much better it is.
I pop into SR on a pretty regular basis to read posts and remind myself of how thankful I am that I don't live like I used to anymore.
Or maybe it just happened to be the method I landed on when I finally made the decision that I wanted to be sober more than I wanted to drink.
I don't really "do" anything now except live my life as a non-drinker and be thankful for how much better it is.
I pop into SR on a pretty regular basis to read posts and remind myself of how thankful I am that I don't live like I used to anymore.
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Originally Posted by SDH73
I've already posted on one of your other threads. Seriously, you might want to look in to AVRT. Many people find it to be a complete game changer.
Best wishes.
Best wishes.
Looking forward reading it! 
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Hi Eve
There's many different approaches and methods of recovery around - here's some links to some of the main players, including but not limited to AA:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...formation.html
I recommend you visit the Secular Connections forum if you think you may benefit from a non 12 step approach.
Pick a way that makes sense to you
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There's many different approaches and methods of recovery around - here's some links to some of the main players, including but not limited to AA:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...formation.html
I recommend you visit the Secular Connections forum if you think you may benefit from a non 12 step approach.
Pick a way that makes sense to you
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