lost it again
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Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Scotland
Posts: 3,379
lost it again
day 3 and done it again, started drinking this afo.
would of been fine if I kept of the phone and finding out my bro and daughter is at my sisters. then I phoned my mum and she said he was out, she lied to me. Been doing this for so long and its not a excuse to drink.
what it is not having that family that I can call and see how people are and what we can do. No my mum through it back at me and said I lied why did I ask about my brother and then tell her what was going on. as allways she will lie about what is going on within the family.
I have no clue to what to do or feel, my daughter has been saying for months or more she doestnt want to know my family but ive been trying to keep it together.
why the heck did she lie to me? my sister told me that he was there. never mind im going to be the bad person again which no one will tell me anything whats going on. hey maybe they are right.
would of been fine if I kept of the phone and finding out my bro and daughter is at my sisters. then I phoned my mum and she said he was out, she lied to me. Been doing this for so long and its not a excuse to drink.
what it is not having that family that I can call and see how people are and what we can do. No my mum through it back at me and said I lied why did I ask about my brother and then tell her what was going on. as allways she will lie about what is going on within the family.
I have no clue to what to do or feel, my daughter has been saying for months or more she doestnt want to know my family but ive been trying to keep it together.
why the heck did she lie to me? my sister told me that he was there. never mind im going to be the bad person again which no one will tell me anything whats going on. hey maybe they are right.
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I don't know what to make of your family problems. Maybe it's linked to your drinking, which in that case, staying sober would help.
Then again, maybe your family issues and drinking aren't related at all. You won't know until you're sober.
Either way, you need to figure out how to quit drinking and stay quit. I wish you luck.
Then again, maybe your family issues and drinking aren't related at all. You won't know until you're sober.
Either way, you need to figure out how to quit drinking and stay quit. I wish you luck.
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Join Date: Feb 2014
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I am really sorry to hear that you are drinking, Erratic.
Family dynamics can very complicated. Drinking at them, though, only hurts you.
Can you pour out whatever is left? Please stop hurting our dear Erratic.
Family dynamics can very complicated. Drinking at them, though, only hurts you.
Can you pour out whatever is left? Please stop hurting our dear Erratic.
Say cheese!
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Scotland
Posts: 3,379
thanks for responding, my family it wouldn't matter if I was sober or not.
either way I would be lied to, as im the venerable one and my daughter has said what she thinks. now its my fault like I said. its all my fault either im sober or drunk its the same.
it goes back to my only thoughts is really im no good and shouldn't be here. cant seem to do anything right regardless.
thanks for response be back when I feel things are better.
either way I would be lied to, as im the venerable one and my daughter has said what she thinks. now its my fault like I said. its all my fault either im sober or drunk its the same.
it goes back to my only thoughts is really im no good and shouldn't be here. cant seem to do anything right regardless.
thanks for response be back when I feel things are better.
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Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: WA
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Sounds like a bunch of needless drama. How important is it?
Keep it simple: pour down the booze, turn off your phones and get sober. From your join date it seems that you ve been "trying" to quit for almost 10 years. Maybe it is time to actually do it?
Keep the focus on yourself and getting sober, alcoholism is no joke. All the rest right now is just futile diversions. If they are stressing you out too much while in early sobriety, consider going no contact with them for a bit until you find your grounds.
Keep it simple: pour down the booze, turn off your phones and get sober. From your join date it seems that you ve been "trying" to quit for almost 10 years. Maybe it is time to actually do it?
Keep the focus on yourself and getting sober, alcoholism is no joke. All the rest right now is just futile diversions. If they are stressing you out too much while in early sobriety, consider going no contact with them for a bit until you find your grounds.
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Hi erratic 
I think the drama would be dealt with a lot better if you were sober.
You had a decent stretch of sobriety there for a while - were you doing anything then you're not doing now?
D
I think the drama would be dealt with a lot better if you were sober.
You had a decent stretch of sobriety there for a while - were you doing anything then you're not doing now?
D
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Join Date: Oct 2014
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Erratic *hugs*. If your family is a source of drama the dynamics aren't good, I would stay away from them until you have more sobriety under your belt. I would also really start looking at the feelings or thoughts that are making you want to pick up that first drink. You need to figure out a plan in how to handle those thoughts or feelings differently.
Say cheese!
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Scotland
Posts: 3,379
Thanks everyone u are all right I need to get sober and maybe leave things with my family for a while.
Today hasn't been the best but I am sober. My husband and daughter are not speaking to me so there is nothing I can do about that except be sober.
See what tomorrow brings if they will talk to me or not. All I can show them is on being sober.
Sry for my post yesterday
Today hasn't been the best but I am sober. My husband and daughter are not speaking to me so there is nothing I can do about that except be sober.
See what tomorrow brings if they will talk to me or not. All I can show them is on being sober.
Sry for my post yesterday
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If you can make staying sober your absolute priority in life, above any family conflict or hobby or want, you can get to a place of peace in sobriety.....you can do this, you are doing this.....and you never have to do it alone....
much love to you
much love to you
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