Who's going to be on Christmas/New Year alone?
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I will be spending the holidays alone again. I have no family nearby so I am used to it. 3rd year in a row alone. I dont want to travel to visit family because they are drinkers and i would have to stay overnight in an awkward situation.
It's odd that I always had plenty of places to go during Christmas when I was an active drinker. Been in recovery for 3 years and never been so lonely in my life. I suppose this is a common transition many alcoholics have to make. Old relationships and burned bridges are tough to mend but it's this time of year when it really hurts.
Holidays are hard.....
It's odd that I always had plenty of places to go during Christmas when I was an active drinker. Been in recovery for 3 years and never been so lonely in my life. I suppose this is a common transition many alcoholics have to make. Old relationships and burned bridges are tough to mend but it's this time of year when it really hurts.
Holidays are hard.....
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I will be alone too. Generally I always work on Christmas and NYE but not such a luck this year.
I ll probably be around SR and I might hit an AA meeting too.
One thing we could do maybe is to either have a Christmas day thread we keep on checking or work the chat room in shifts. SR will probably get its share of desperate lonely newcomers or relapsees. Nothing like doing service to get out of our own heads.
I ll probably be around SR and I might hit an AA meeting too.
One thing we could do maybe is to either have a Christmas day thread we keep on checking or work the chat room in shifts. SR will probably get its share of desperate lonely newcomers or relapsees. Nothing like doing service to get out of our own heads.
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Yep, me too. Just me, myself and I for Xmas and New Years. Really miss the family get togethers, but that's the past. Bothering me more this year than most for some reason, but no point in getting upset over stuff you have no control over. Right? John
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Hi, all!!
So, it's Christmas Eve.
And I am alone. Technically.
But, genuinely, far from being alone.
So many accomplishments I've achieved this year - they are with me.
My dear friends at SR - you are here.
Again, "technically" my Orthodox Christmas is not earlier than on January 7. But during all this time at SR I've learned to celebrate two Christmases. Ain't I am lucky?
So, I am indulging myself in a splurge of cheese, chocolate, dates, baked bread, and tea.
What are you having as a Christmas treat?
So, it's Christmas Eve.
And I am alone. Technically.
But, genuinely, far from being alone.
So many accomplishments I've achieved this year - they are with me.
My dear friends at SR - you are here.
Again, "technically" my Orthodox Christmas is not earlier than on January 7. But during all this time at SR I've learned to celebrate two Christmases. Ain't I am lucky?
So, I am indulging myself in a splurge of cheese, chocolate, dates, baked bread, and tea.
What are you having as a Christmas treat?
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How's everyone doing?
Here's my little Christmas tree. I am not much of a decorator, but still better than no tree at all)
I've been thinking about some new tradition for myself to establish for sober Christmas/New Year Holidays. Like for most people NY will be popping up Champaigne. What's this for me to "pop up"?
Still thinking. I still have some time till X-mas strikes to come up with some good idea.
Any ideas?
Here's my little Christmas tree. I am not much of a decorator, but still better than no tree at all)
I've been thinking about some new tradition for myself to establish for sober Christmas/New Year Holidays. Like for most people NY will be popping up Champaigne. What's this for me to "pop up"?
Still thinking. I still have some time till X-mas strikes to come up with some good idea.
Any ideas?
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In for meditative Christmas. I'm never alone, I have two cats. No family, though. I've lived alone for 25 years.
Grateful beyond grateful for their furry little heads
One of them is a daytime love and one is a nighttime one. Works well.
Grateful beyond grateful for their furry little heads
One of them is a daytime love and one is a nighttime one. Works well.
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Originally Posted by biminiblue 
In for meditative Christmas.
Great idea!
One of them is a daytime love and one is a nighttime one. Works well.
Sounds like fun, Bimini!
Great idea!
One of them is a daytime love and one is a nighttime one. Works well.
Sounds like fun, Bimini!
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Ok, I've been giving it some thought and decided that I'll adopt your meditative approach, Bimini.
This Christmas, and hopefully, every day since, I will give myself 10 minutes of total silence. No even background music. Just silence. There's nothing to be afraid in silence.
There are no thoughts to be scared of and to run away from.
Just blissful acceptance of silence. And time. And myself as I am.
I think it will be the "hardest gift to wrap". But I will try.
This Christmas, and hopefully, every day since, I will give myself 10 minutes of total silence. No even background music. Just silence. There's nothing to be afraid in silence.
There are no thoughts to be scared of and to run away from.
Just blissful acceptance of silence. And time. And myself as I am.
I think it will be the "hardest gift to wrap". But I will try.
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Merry Christmas, my lovely pal, Midnight 
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Love the tree!
For Christmas Day and New Year's Day I'll be popping the slimline tonic. It worked a treat last year - looked great in our champagne glasses and gave me no hangover or guilt whatsoever!
:Love the tree!
For Christmas Day and New Year's Day I'll be popping the slimline tonic. It worked a treat last year - looked great in our champagne glasses and gave me no hangover or guilt whatsoever!
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Originally Posted by Nowsthetime
You don't have to be lonely just because you are alone...
There's a skill in enjoying our own company I think, simply being on our own, that doesn't have to come with any sadness or feelings of missing out, we get to plan our own time, enjoy what we would like to do, no arguing over the TV remote or how much seasoning to put on the sprouts!!
Let's do this!!
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My brother will be here part of Christmas day but will be alone for the rest of it. Not counting the kids coming over that morning.
New Year's Eve will probably be alone and that's fine with me. I don't go out on NYE for fear of drunk drivers.
New Year's Eve will probably be alone and that's fine with me. I don't go out on NYE for fear of drunk drivers.
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I love being alone actually. I'm the king of my castle.
There's a skill in enjoying our own company I think
Merry Happy Sober Christmas to all!
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