Jack16

Just wanted to share a happy observation.

I met up with a friend last night after she'd had some upsetting news about her mum. Rightly or wrongly, we met in a bar. I drank soft drinks all evening and she drank alcohol. I listened to her and offered sympathy, and tried to make her feel supported.

The thing is, because I wasn't drinking I was able to truly listen, to really hear what she was saying. When drinking, that never happens. I feel pleased and proud that I was able to really BE THERE for her. I also noticed that other people there, people I have known for a long time, were responding to me in a much more positive way. I felt confident, and present. Finally I had to head home but my friend stayed. I would've stayed too if I'd been drinking.

Today I feel tired (ongoing sleeping problems ) but I am NOT hungover. I know after I left she would've had a bunch more drinks, and substances as well, and that today she'll be feeling ropey, which is a shame. But at least, because I'm sober, I was able to be there for her.

determined99

Awesome post. Well done man.

Soberwolf

Jack that is good that your being there for someone but it is early days and you should be careful

congrats jack

Jack16

You're right Wolf, you're right.

LBrain

Sounds great Jack. That is the one thing that really stood out for me too. Being there for someone and actually "being there".

SoberLeigh

Being truly 'present' is one of my top favorite parts of sobriety (and I have a lot of favorites when it comes to sobriety).

Glad that your experience was so positive.