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Originally Posted by LexieCat 
I can't tell you how many days I got up and said, "I've had enough--at least, I pray I have."
Praying, without any ACTION, never did me a lick of good.
Reaching out is a good first step. How about taking the next one--a safe detox, getting rid of any alcohol in the house, having a serious conversation with your wife, attending AA or some other in-person recovery group? Things like that got me off the musing, feeling-sorry-for-myself floundering around that I would otherwise have done. I did concrete things, every day, to support my commitment.
I recently celebrated six years sober. I've got a lot of friends who "went back out" after several years of sobriety, and they all say it was harder than, and different from, the first time.
Praying, without any ACTION, never did me a lick of good.
Reaching out is a good first step. How about taking the next one--a safe detox, getting rid of any alcohol in the house, having a serious conversation with your wife, attending AA or some other in-person recovery group? Things like that got me off the musing, feeling-sorry-for-myself floundering around that I would otherwise have done. I did concrete things, every day, to support my commitment.
I recently celebrated six years sober. I've got a lot of friends who "went back out" after several years of sobriety, and they all say it was harder than, and different from, the first time.
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Originally Posted by biminiblue
tomsteve, I don't think HOUMJM was being cynical/negative in his post that addressed me 
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HOUMJM, people in AA will be happy to see you. They might say (to themselves, hopefully not to you), "Thank god that hasn't happened to me." But really, people come back into the rooms all the time, and they are just GLAD you're back, and that they aren't seeing you in a box (happens more often than we'd like).
I know exactly what that feels like, to have that constant thinking about drinking when you aren't. That's that mental obsession that goes along with alcoholism, and until that goes away you are not truly free. The good news is that it CAN go away. And you can get that freedom again.
Please don't let this opportunity pass. In my experience, these "moments of clarity" have a limited shelf-life. If you don't act on it, the window of opportunity tends to close and you only have more misery to look forward to until it opens again--and you never know how long that will be. IF it comes.
I know exactly what that feels like, to have that constant thinking about drinking when you aren't. That's that mental obsession that goes along with alcoholism, and until that goes away you are not truly free. The good news is that it CAN go away. And you can get that freedom again.
Please don't let this opportunity pass. In my experience, these "moments of clarity" have a limited shelf-life. If you don't act on it, the window of opportunity tends to close and you only have more misery to look forward to until it opens again--and you never know how long that will be. IF it comes.
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Originally Posted by tomsteve
Easy there kimosabe. No ones been shooting any arrows here IMO. You say you were in AA for some time so I'm guessing ya may remember hearing that if something someone says bothers you then there's prolly some truth to it.
Maybe some truth to what some have said?
Many of us aren't into staying in the problem. We prefer solutions and talking about them.
Maybe some truth to what some have said?
Many of us aren't into staying in the problem. We prefer solutions and talking about them.
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Originally Posted by LexieCat
HOUMJM, people in AA will be happy to see you. They might say (to themselves, hopefully not to you), "Thank god that hasn't happened to me." But really, people come back into the rooms all the time, and they are just GLAD you're back, and that they aren't seeing you in a box (happens more often than we'd like).
I know exactly what that feels like, to have that constant thinking about drinking when you aren't. That's that mental obsession that goes along with alcoholism, and until that goes away you are not truly free. The good news is that it CAN go away. And you can get that freedom again.
Please don't let this opportunity pass. In my experience, these "moments of clarity" have a limited shelf-life. If you don't act on it, the window of opportunity tends to close and you only have more misery to look forward to until it opens again--and you never know how long that will be. IF it comes.
I know exactly what that feels like, to have that constant thinking about drinking when you aren't. That's that mental obsession that goes along with alcoholism, and until that goes away you are not truly free. The good news is that it CAN go away. And you can get that freedom again.
Please don't let this opportunity pass. In my experience, these "moments of clarity" have a limited shelf-life. If you don't act on it, the window of opportunity tends to close and you only have more misery to look forward to until it opens again--and you never know how long that will be. IF it comes.
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