MavisTheFairy13

I do not want to drink. I know that drinking will not help. Yet there it is in my head and then coming out of my mouth and im saying **** it im gonna drink wine.

I will not drink. But my husband is definitely a trigger. I am so sick of his goddamn moaning about EVERYTHING it's really bringing me down.

Rant over

countrygirl2014

Hey Mavis! Give it a little time. My little stupid emotions are starting to level out...finally. Have a little saying you can say out loud when you feel yourself losing your cool. I use the serenity prayer. I beat the hell out if that prayer. But it works. By the time I get done whispering it to myself, it's all better

Soberwolf

Hi Mavis first off dont give in stay as close to us as you can youl find nothing but support & advice

Hi Mavis this is what i meant by having a sort out with the hubby

it was so he supports you through this not hinder your progress

so sorry Mavis i hope his understanding comes soon

hang in there M you can do it you got us you always have us

foolsgold66

I used to drink 'at' people. That doesn't work. When you feel your sobriety is 'stable' will be the time to actually address said annoyances if they still exist. Until then, let it slide off you.

Nowsthetime

Let his nagging fuel your sobriety. Like PP said, I also used to drink at my hubby... I was only hurting myself. In my case I feel like if I drink he will have something on me and there is no way I'm giving that away. No way!

Nonsensical

Glad you're not going to drink about it, but that doesn't mean you can't do something. Try discussing it when you're calm. Tell him what you think and why. I've been married 22 years and I still can't read her mind.

SoberLeigh

Glad to hear you are not drinking despite the emotional challenges. Working your way through these situations without drinking is helping you build those 'sober muscles' to which Dee likes to refer.

I echo what Nonsensical said about addressing the situation with your husband when you are calm. so much of sobriety is about learning and utilizing new coping skills to deal with life.

Good job, Mavis!!!!

MavisTheFairy13

The AV is still there in my ear telling me I deserve to have a bottle of wine tonight and get tipsy and everything will be better. I'm wavering a bit. Agghhh

neferkamichael

MavisTheFairy13, you didnt drink FANTASTIC, congratultions, rootin for ya.

SoberLeigh

Stick with us, Mavis; we are here for you; as you know, there is always someone here.

The AV can be truly demonic and can be relentless in early time (mine certainly was); have you looked into AVRT?

tommyinphilly

We are always here to get it off your chest. Great job on staying sober.

biminiblue

How exactly will this end?

Play it out in your head. What will tomorrow look like if you drink? How will you feel, both physically and emotionally tomorrow?

New coping skills are like any other skills, they have to be learned and practiced.


I agree with the Serenity Prayer. You can't wear it out. It was on a constant loop in my head for months.

dcrr

You are incredibly strong and this is where you shine. You can handle the AV. It is weak and you are not giving in.

tommyinphilly

You deserve to stay sober mavis. You are way stronger than your AV. Plus you have all the support you need. Can you call your sponsor or get to a meeting. Either way you have us

HeadLump

I think you've worked so hard and dealt with so much that you deserve to have a healthy body and a calm, clear mind - I don't think wine will be able to deliver much of that! Can you put on a really upbeat CD and throw yourself around the room? That usually works for me

sprout50

You did the right thing to come here and post instead of drink. You will make it through this!

Soberwolf

Just keep posting in the meantime http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...e-surfing.html

fridgey

you could numb your feelings or plot revenge but both are hollow, you must strive to be a better person within yourself and not indulge pity. This too will pass.