Went to a gig last night
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Went to a gig last night
So I went to a gig with some mates last night and I decided to drive as then I knew I had no choice but to be sober.
Everyone was drinking around me and do you know what I wasn't even bothered.
My friend who I was with told the other guys how much I used to drink and they couldn't believe it. I was pretty mad at him for this as it's no ones business but mine.
But when the guys found out they were amazing and even told me how much they worried for my friend who blabbed.
I felt very proud of myself last night and realised that I can and enjoy things without a drink in me.
Also got to meet the band which was pretty rad
Everyone was drinking around me and do you know what I wasn't even bothered.
My friend who I was with told the other guys how much I used to drink and they couldn't believe it. I was pretty mad at him for this as it's no ones business but mine.
But when the guys found out they were amazing and even told me how much they worried for my friend who blabbed.
I felt very proud of myself last night and realised that I can and enjoy things without a drink in me.
Also got to meet the band which was pretty rad
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That's awesome!!! Good for you! I am the same way. I have been the designated driver and I feel so cool, confident and strong staying sober and taking my drunk friends home. You should feel proud and your friends should be thankful! We can do this!!!
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I felt very proud of myself last night....
It's not always easy, but you were still able to still enjoy yourself even without the drink. This is a great example of how as time proceeds, and as we come to terms with our problem, we to realize that booze is not the sole ingredient to our enjoyment.
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Hey way to go!
I too spend a whole evening in a pub last weekend. I struggled for a bit simply because I didn't know the group I was with as I was a "date". In all honesty, it would have been a struggle drinkin' too. And I would have gotten completely hammered in my discomfort and made a right arse of myself. When my social anxiety and awkwardness lifted (and I quit thinking I had to be some sort of charming extroverted brilliant conversationalist)...everything was fine.
But one thing...I am still not comfortable being DD in the sense I have to wait around for folks if I really NEED to leave. My date knew I might have to leave..and he had his own ride home should he have needed it. I always need an exit plan.
I too spend a whole evening in a pub last weekend. I struggled for a bit simply because I didn't know the group I was with as I was a "date". In all honesty, it would have been a struggle drinkin' too. And I would have gotten completely hammered in my discomfort and made a right arse of myself. When my social anxiety and awkwardness lifted (and I quit thinking I had to be some sort of charming extroverted brilliant conversationalist)...everything was fine.
But one thing...I am still not comfortable being DD in the sense I have to wait around for folks if I really NEED to leave. My date knew I might have to leave..and he had his own ride home should he have needed it. I always need an exit plan.
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I bet you feel awesome. Being in control of yourself the whole night, no embarrassment, and getting to enjoy the live music. You should be very proud of yourself. That's what being sober is all about.
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I passed on the last two local gigs because I don't feel I am ready to go. Over the winter we have some pretty well know national country recording artists who come here and play at a local bar. Admission is just a fraction of what you would pay at one of their concerts. The bar also offers all you can drink top shelf drinks for only $20 which they call sink or swim night - I mostly would sink - in my chair that is.
This past weekend I did go to a pre-grand opening of a sports bar that my daughter works for. Since everything was free including drinks, my wife, who normally doesn't drink, ordered a fruity specialty mixed drink. Without even thinking I reached over and grabbed her glass and my wife looked at me and asked me what I was doing? I know about my AV but this was more like a reflect. I couldn't believe it - I had no intention of drinking and relapsing. I mean WTF? So that's why I don't feel I am ready.
Great job staying on track. I like all kinds of music so I will have to look up Wheatus.
This past weekend I did go to a pre-grand opening of a sports bar that my daughter works for. Since everything was free including drinks, my wife, who normally doesn't drink, ordered a fruity specialty mixed drink. Without even thinking I reached over and grabbed her glass and my wife looked at me and asked me what I was doing? I know about my AV but this was more like a reflect. I couldn't believe it - I had no intention of drinking and relapsing. I mean WTF? So that's why I don't feel I am ready.
Great job staying on track. I like all kinds of music so I will have to look up Wheatus.
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