I caved
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I caved
I am such a weenie!
I went out with a friend to a TexMex place last night to celebrate that my blood work and tests all came back negative. Normally, when we go out we have margaritas. So last night she ordered hers and I said "ice tea".
She freaked! What?? Iced tea?!?! I thought we were here to celebrate!! I caved immediately... ok, I'll have a margarita.
So round two...she orders hers and I refused a second drink (small victory). She was perplexed. I didn't explain or anything.
But, now feeling guilty for feeling guilty. Sigh
I went out with a friend to a TexMex place last night to celebrate that my blood work and tests all came back negative. Normally, when we go out we have margaritas. So last night she ordered hers and I said "ice tea".
She freaked! What?? Iced tea?!?! I thought we were here to celebrate!! I caved immediately... ok, I'll have a margarita.
So round two...she orders hers and I refused a second drink (small victory). She was perplexed. I didn't explain or anything.
But, now feeling guilty for feeling guilty. Sigh
Did your friend know you were celebrating b/c your bloodwork came back ok?
Seems a bit odd that she would WANT to celebrate that by ordering drinks.
today is a new day, a fresh start.
was that margarita worth it?
Seems a bit odd that she would WANT to celebrate that by ordering drinks.
today is a new day, a fresh start.
was that margarita worth it?
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Sadie, at least you kept it at one drink. I admire you for that because I don't think I could do it. Don't let it be your excuse to have anymore this weekend.
Kind of ironic that you are celebrating your blood work coming back good and having a drink on top of it?
Hope you do better today.
Kind of ironic that you are celebrating your blood work coming back good and having a drink on top of it?
Hope you do better today.
Be happy with your small victory of sticking to one and start over. I caved as well two days ago, but kept it to one, so I felt that it was a small victory. Yesterday I started over and made it through the night without drinking, even though my husband (who was going to quit with me), decided to get into the wine. And then he got crabby because I still wasn't drinking....LOL.
exactly, you didn't have that one and say "AH CRAP IT ALL, GIMME ANOTHER"
you had one and stopped. don't beat yourself up. Start again.
I would be a bit apprehensive going out with said friend again though. That's just me.
It sounds like a bit too much temptation too early. And I'd like to think my friends wouldn't want me to drink after worrying my bloodwork was going to be bad DUE to drinking. Again, that's just me
you had one and stopped. don't beat yourself up. Start again.
I would be a bit apprehensive going out with said friend again though. That's just me.
It sounds like a bit too much temptation too early. And I'd like to think my friends wouldn't want me to drink after worrying my bloodwork was going to be bad DUE to drinking. Again, that's just me
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My friend initiated and paid for the whole deal. So I felt like I had to "go along" with it and be a good sport and not rain on her parade. She doesn't know that I am trying to quit, so that is my fault for not telling her. I didn't think it was the right place and time to announce it since it was her party. We have been friends for many years and doing margaritas is our "thing". Get a buzz on and solve the world's problems . I hate to have to stop that after all these years, but things change.
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exactly, you didn't have that one and say "AH CRAP IT ALL, GIMME ANOTHER"
you had one and stopped. don't beat yourself up. Start again.
I would be a bit apprehensive going out with said friend again though. That's just me.
It sounds like a bit too much temptation too early. And I'd like to think my friends wouldn't want me to drink after worrying my bloodwork was going to be bad DUE to drinking. Again, that's just me
you had one and stopped. don't beat yourself up. Start again.
I would be a bit apprehensive going out with said friend again though. That's just me.
It sounds like a bit too much temptation too early. And I'd like to think my friends wouldn't want me to drink after worrying my bloodwork was going to be bad DUE to drinking. Again, that's just me
today might be a good day to invite your friend out to lunch or afternoon tea and just be honest and explain what's going on.
don't dump guilt on her, just tell her the matter-of-fact truth; "I don't want to drink anymore because my life is better without it. Last night I caved and I feel pretty glum about that, and I'd just like you to know so that in the future you understand why I'm not joining you in drinking. We can still celebrate and have good times, I'm just going to do it in a different way from now on".
Just a thought.
Either way, time for a deep breath, some reflection, some self-forgiveness and moving on.
don't dump guilt on her, just tell her the matter-of-fact truth; "I don't want to drink anymore because my life is better without it. Last night I caved and I feel pretty glum about that, and I'd just like you to know so that in the future you understand why I'm not joining you in drinking. We can still celebrate and have good times, I'm just going to do it in a different way from now on".
Just a thought.
Either way, time for a deep breath, some reflection, some self-forgiveness and moving on.
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I completely understand
My ex wife FREAKED OUT when I told her I wanted to quit drinking a long time ago. She said, "I could never live with a man that doesn't drink". I still stayed in that relationship for another 3 years drinking. So glad I am no longer with her!!!
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today might be a good day to invite your friend out to lunch or afternoon tea and just be honest and explain what's going on.
don't dump guilt on her, just tell her the matter-of-fact truth; "I don't want to drink anymore because my life is better without it. Last night I caved and I feel pretty glum about that, and I'd just like you to know so that in the future you understand why I'm not joining you in drinking. We can still celebrate and have good times, I'm just going to do it in a different way from now on".
Just a thought.
Either way, time for a deep breath, some reflection, some self-forgiveness and moving on.
don't dump guilt on her, just tell her the matter-of-fact truth; "I don't want to drink anymore because my life is better without it. Last night I caved and I feel pretty glum about that, and I'd just like you to know so that in the future you understand why I'm not joining you in drinking. We can still celebrate and have good times, I'm just going to do it in a different way from now on".
Just a thought.
Either way, time for a deep breath, some reflection, some self-forgiveness and moving on.
See, I know 95% of folks on here would call this (quietly think/judge) what you did as a failure). I guess I don't, mostly.
You had 1- Not 12.
You stopped there (I am assuming the next thing you drank we iced tea or water).
You didn't stop on the way home and buy a bottle/case of beer.
You are here now.
I'd say you had a tiny sip, and managed quite well to recognize it for what it was, and HALT right there. I'd call that a small slip, and a big victory (so far) in the end.
I am sure I am in the minority here though.
You had 1- Not 12.
You stopped there (I am assuming the next thing you drank we iced tea or water).
You didn't stop on the way home and buy a bottle/case of beer.
You are here now.
I'd say you had a tiny sip, and managed quite well to recognize it for what it was, and HALT right there. I'd call that a small slip, and a big victory (so far) in the end.
I am sure I am in the minority here though.
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My friend initiated and paid for the whole deal. So I felt like I had to "go along" with it and be a good sport and not rain on her parade. She doesn't know that I am trying to quit, so that is my fault for not telling her. I didn't think it was the right place and time to announce it since it was her party. We have been friends for many years and doing margaritas is our "thing". Get a buzz on and solve the world's problems . I hate to have to stop that after all these years, but things change.
You relapsed long before you ordered that drink..if you know what I mean. Rain on her parade? Ya you made plans to go to that parade hours beforehand. No?
I could never live with a man that doesn't drink? LMAO
uh, ok. Way to have standards! jeeez
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