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Today would have been my sister's 58th birthday, but she isn't here. She died of alcoholism at the age of 35. Her death still haunts my nieces and my mom from time to time. They don't have the -ism that we have, so don't really understand how she could choose alcohol over them and LIFE.
Anyway, just a reminder of how deadly this disease can be. And a moment of tribute for my sister. She was one of us, but didn't have the resources we have today. No internet then, no cell phones, no SR, medical community still thought in the dark ages about it, LOTS more stigma than we have now-a-days.
So, use your tools ~ ALL of them. Don't drink. This world needs you.
Anyway, just a reminder of how deadly this disease can be. And a moment of tribute for my sister. She was one of us, but didn't have the resources we have today. No internet then, no cell phones, no SR, medical community still thought in the dark ages about it, LOTS more stigma than we have now-a-days.
So, use your tools ~ ALL of them. Don't drink. This world needs you.
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Thank you all. I didn't realize I had this -ism until I was 48 yrs old. Sometimes it feels like a blessing bc I can help my mom and nieces with the snags they feel about this and can maybe help them heal.
During early recovery I felt in a very dark place, but I knew that God was going to take this dark place and turn it into something wonderful. I still struggle with it all, but I do see the wonderfulness of it.
Not only have I been able to help my family understand my sister's death a bit, but I've been able to help other normies understand addiction a bit more. My friend's brother committed suicide bc of his addiction. He wasn't active in it at the time, but I've been able to help her understand what was going on in his head a bit.
So, in honor of my sister, reach out to help someone today. I'm heading to a meeting in a bit to do just that. . . and get helped by all of them. It takes all of us working together.
During early recovery I felt in a very dark place, but I knew that God was going to take this dark place and turn it into something wonderful. I still struggle with it all, but I do see the wonderfulness of it.
Not only have I been able to help my family understand my sister's death a bit, but I've been able to help other normies understand addiction a bit more. My friend's brother committed suicide bc of his addiction. He wasn't active in it at the time, but I've been able to help her understand what was going on in his head a bit.
So, in honor of my sister, reach out to help someone today. I'm heading to a meeting in a bit to do just that. . . and get helped by all of them. It takes all of us working together.
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Yep, there are reminders all around us. I want my death certificate to say "she died peacefully in her sleep at 110 yrs of age after winning the senior's marathon." Definitely NOT "complications of alcohol addiction." Yeah, I like my plan better.
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(((((Altoids))))) I'm so so sorry. I lost my sister when I was 13. She was 19 and suffering from anorexia. She would have been 60 in April. The pain never really goes away but I do think it made me more compassionate and more determined to recognise and help other people in need.
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Originally Posted by HeadLump 
(((((Altoids))))) I'm so so sorry. I lost my sister when I was 13. She was 19 and suffering from anorexia. She would have been 60 in April. The pain never really goes away but I do think it made me more compassionate and more determined to recognize and help other people in need.
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Altoids, so sorry for your loss.
There are definitely reminders every where we turn. Alcoholism ruined and claimed my Grandfather's life prior to me being born. We share the same anniversary date; his death and my birth, April 12.
Thanks for sharing Altoids.
There are definitely reminders every where we turn. Alcoholism ruined and claimed my Grandfather's life prior to me being born. We share the same anniversary date; his death and my birth, April 12.
Thanks for sharing Altoids.
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Originally Posted by Altoids
Today would have been my sister's 58th birthday, but she isn't here. She died of alcoholism at the age of 35. Her death still haunts my nieces and my mom from time to time. They don't have the -ism that we have, so don't really understand how she could choose alcohol over them and LIFE.
Anyway, just a reminder of how deadly this disease can be. And a moment of tribute for my sister. She was one of us, but didn't have the resources we have today. No internet then, no cell phones, no SR, medical community still thought in the dark ages about it, LOTS more stigma than we have now-a-days.
So, use your tools ~ ALL of them. Don't drink. This world needs you.
Anyway, just a reminder of how deadly this disease can be. And a moment of tribute for my sister. She was one of us, but didn't have the resources we have today. No internet then, no cell phones, no SR, medical community still thought in the dark ages about it, LOTS more stigma than we have now-a-days.
So, use your tools ~ ALL of them. Don't drink. This world needs you.
Very touching and I send my condolences, this world needs each and every one of us in our as - is state of living, don't cheat yourself or the world out of a wonderful person
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