Dee74

Hi Vanessa - I think it's a good idea to get some advice on this, talk to people you trust, call some help lines.

You don't need to make a decision today

Know that you have support here
D

Gilmer

I was in your boat with my third--totally unexpected and totally unwanted baby. My husband despised me. I had voiced public religious conviction, so I was hypocritically stuck--but in my heart I cursed my big mouth and wished fervently that I could get the hell rid of it.

So I kept the baby and had no affection for her. I forced myself to hold her and spend time because I believed that she was a precious soul created by God, and I didn't want her to be hurt or warped because of me.

Eventually I got used to having her around, and by the time she was one I had actually built up a lot of true love and affection for her.

Today we are extremely close, and she is a truly wonderful daughter and person. I am very proud of her! I am so glad I didn't abort her when I so fervently wanted to.

aussieblue

So much to deal with all at once , I agree with Dee take your time and think it through.

Chuckieinoz

Hi Needing I saw you in the chat room last night Aussie time, new experience for me (chat rooms that is) I am not one to give advice but support in prayer I can do hope that's ok.
For me it is so hard to think clearly through stuff when in that emotional mess like when my intellectually challenged son was sentenced to 18 months Prison. Keep safe

Spinach

You can deal with this Needinghelp, but support is the call of the day and love.
Take it easy on yourself and give yourself time to think.
Love John.

courage2

Needinghelp, you have a lot to think about. I hope people you trust that you can talk to. I'm glad that you've already talked to your husband.

Carlotta

Just sending you a big hug and seconding what many said: talk to someone you can trust and know that we are here to support you

Needinghelp82

Thanks everyone. I can't sleep, too many thoughts.

jdooner

Do you meditate? There are free guided versions online. It helps me to quiet my thoughts.

Croissant

Hi Needinghelp. My thoughts are with you. No one can truly understand your own situation and how devastating it is for you to be put in this situation unexpectedly.

Please consider your domestic violence situation as part of all this also....I haven't read the specific posts, but my first concern is your safety.

It's like when you are on a plane, and they tell the parents to put their oxygen masks on first before they can tend to their children.

Big life changes take time to work through, whatever you decide. Don't fight your mind turning over a million ways....it's crazy, but it has to happen in order for us to understand what we are dealing with.

Big hugs....and a huge box of tissues, Sweetie.

Needinghelp82

Thanks everyone.

I've spoken to someone and have an appointment for counselling next week. Honestly, I don't think I can do this, I'm a mess.

I need to sleep...

jdooner

You can. You will get through it and be so much stronger than you think. Touh now but one day you will look back and say wow, I can't believe I made it through that.

Be gentle on yourself and take time and counsel in your decisions, whatever they may be.

You will find support here!

TimidTulip

Wow, I dont think any of us can find the words that can be of help, just know we are all here, listening. Please keep posting, you need an outlet and you are among friends here.

Just know we all love you and will support you no matter what.

pauladmits

Think of this as a blessing that can help you through your recovery. It's like a 9 month detox with a prize at the end! I of course am trying to lighten the mood because this is a tough situation! Hope everything works out!

ReadyAtLast

How are you feeling today? hoping you got some sleep. My thoughts are with you.

LadyinBC

Yes please let us know how you are doing. Supporting you 100%. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

Verte

Hi Needing...I'm awake in the middle of the night. Sending you hugs, prayers and thoughts of love and strength. Giant hugs to you

Needinghelp82

I've been up for about five hours now. I'm feeling quite sick and worried.

Spinach

Get all the information you need, and be kind to yourself whatever happens.
John.

Marcher13

Needinghelp today you need to do two things: not drink and look after your daughter. You do not have to make any decisions today. Can you take your daughter out somewhere in the sunshine and have some time for the two of you? Take some lemonade and apples or whatever fruit you have. Just go out and b-r-e-a-t-h-e.