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06-13-2014, 04:54 AM

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badams

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wife of alcoholic

trying to find a place to understand what im dealing with. i have had no luck dealing with it.

06-13-2014, 05:19 AM

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LBrain

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Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

take a look here to get started

Welcome to the forum

06-13-2014, 05:39 AM

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Welcome to the Forum!! You'll find loads of support and advice here!!

06-13-2014, 05:39 AM

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This would be the place, badams. Welcome to you. I am sorry you are having a rough time. You will find understanding here.

keep posting! We care.

06-13-2014, 05:45 AM

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northof49

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This is a great place for support badams, have you considered Al-Anon?

06-13-2014, 05:57 AM

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Badams,

, good place for support.

06-13-2014, 06:23 AM

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badams

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This is a great place for support badams, have you considered Al-Anon?

i did that a while ago..but they tend to baby the drinker...so i stop going

06-13-2014, 07:03 AM

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Welcome badams.. I'm a double or triple winner of sorts. I might not have the best advice but I'm good at listening if you ever need an ear.

06-13-2014, 07:05 AM

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but they tend to baby the drinker...

How so?

06-13-2014, 07:44 AM

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Welcome badams.. I'm a double or triple winner of sorts. I might not have the best advice but I'm good at listening if you ever need an ear.

thanks isitme...would love to chat sometime

06-13-2014, 08:10 AM

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badams

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How so?

it was like 10 yrs ago..i just remember thinking that....so i stopped going. it was more poor them...how to cater to them....at least for that group i was in

06-13-2014, 03:22 PM

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Hi badams - welcome

You'll find a lot of support and understanding here.

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06-14-2014, 10:18 AM

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badams, I guess my wife and I are lucky, both my AA group and her Al-Anon group are great! We have both learned so much and are struggling down this road together, a road I doubt I could travel without her by my side. Maybe give it another chance? The Friends and Family thread could also help and support you as well..... remember, you only have to do this alone if you choose to, SR is an amazing place!

06-14-2014, 10:27 AM

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Welcome!

We have lots of support to offer.

06-14-2014, 02:45 PM

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ultradad

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Yes, I would give Al Anon another chance...my wife goes and it's really helping her as we both struggle with the disease of alcoholism that I have.

All the best and welcome!

06-15-2014, 10:09 AM

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badams

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thanks ultradad...and i wish you all the best on this journey. its a tough one..but worth the win.

06-15-2014, 10:10 AM

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badams

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thanks Anna!!

06-15-2014, 10:12 AM

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badams

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Thanks northof49...wishing you all the best..i sure will try.

06-15-2014, 11:41 AM

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it was like 10 yrs ago..i just remember thinking that....so i stopped going. it was more poor them...how to cater to them....at least for that group i was in

This is unusual in my experience (disclaimer: I am the alcoholic). Alanon typically is for support of the family and loved ones and never caters to the alcoholic.

Please try it again since it has been 10 years. Or try another group.