So many monkeys....
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Nuudawn so glad to see you back. I've taken a very simplistic approach to friendships/relationships, etc. in my recovery. If someone isn't enriching my life or adding to it in any way I've cut them loose. Draconian, yes....effective, absolutely.
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Originally Posted by tomsteve 
by having chaos and drama happening, it kept me from doin something totally insane and what I didn't want to do-look at myself.
Our relationship just spins wheels in mud...no progress..no movement forward.
I have said the exact same thing bout my relationship with alcohol.
Wow...
With so many of these responses...I find myself nodding vigorously at the computer screen.
Wish there was a "ya, ya EXACTLY!!!" button.
Thanks all.
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Originally Posted by Nuudawn
Now that I think of it, I have used the same analogy to him..as I have with alcohol....
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Originally Posted by Oldselfagain
like a really bad relationship but good sex. You keep coming back for the good sex but in the back of your mind you know the relationship is going to result in a train wreck.
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Originally Posted by Oldselfagain
The analogy that I would sometimes use with alcohol was that it was like a really bad relationship but good sex. You keep coming back for the good sex but in the back of your mind you know the relationship is going to result in a train wreck.
I personally would not call "good sex" after which I feel my crappiest ever just physically speaking
Or maybe I just have too high standards?
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See, jdooner, ImperfectlyMe, Nuudawn and whoever can relate - for me this is a goal in sobriety, and one that I'm already convinced it'll work. I just think it's an important component of human interaction and connection. And it's really cool to envision and imagine this dimension of life getting even better with continued sobriety. Haha, don't get into my dreams, people...
Anyhow, back to the sobriety issue - I think it's good to try to hold onto it for a while no matter how hard, so that we can actually see the benefits and get out into the light
I also recommend 'Love in the Time of Cholera' by Gabriel García Márquez here
Anyhow, back to the sobriety issue - I think it's good to try to hold onto it for a while no matter how hard, so that we can actually see the benefits and get out into the light
I also recommend 'Love in the Time of Cholera' by Gabriel García Márquez here
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Originally Posted by Oldselfagain
Yes my dear a new code!
What sort of "code" will I write tonight? We'll see
Have a good nite friends
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Originally Posted by haennie
I also recommend 'Love in the Time of Cholera' by Gabriel García Márquez here
I just noticed this book earlier today on my library ebook website and I thought..."what a wierd name"...shrugged and moved on in my browse.
Sounds like I should check it out.
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