Upward2Enlightenment

audreyroscoe, I would recommend that you let him stop taking the pill and tell him if he drinks you will throw him out, but you have to follow through if he does. My wife threw me out because of my pill addiction and it let me get to a point where I wanted to be clean. If she hadn't I don't think I would have gotten clean. At first I was doing it for her and my kids but then I realized I had to do it for me. I have been clean 32 days and I am a new man. I just hope that I can prove it to them.

readerbaby71

Audreyroscoe, I just read some of your older posts and it seems like this has been going on for a long time. Nothing you do will change him. NOTHING. I'm so sorry. You deserve a life filled with peace and happiness. I wish you all the best.

EndGameNYC

You're addicted to his alcoholism. Your boyfriend's already demonstrated that he's a control freak, and that he'll do whatever is necessary to continue drinking...which includes you living by his rules. Al-anon and therapy...either one would be a good start for you.

You can't do anything about your boyfriend's problems but, on some level, you're aware that you need to work on yourself. If your "main enjoyment out of life" is from your partner's happiness, there isn't very much enjoyment available for you in this relationship as it now stands.

Given what you've disclosed about your own relationship issues, this is equivalent to an alcoholic wishing he or she could drink "like a normal person." If you want a healthy relationship, then you need to do whatever is necessary to heal.