Trying to figure it out
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Trying to figure it out
I am in a relationship with a recovering alcoholic. when he doesn't go to meetings for more than 3 or 4 days he is very difficult to be around. I don't know what to do. I spent years in Alanon so I know this is his issue but it has an impact on me and our relationship. I don't know what to do.
Hi and welcome dakwtd
Depends on what you mean by do - do you mean what can you do for him, or what you can do for yourself?
You'll find a lot of strength experience and hope here anyway - glad you've found us
Depends on what you mean by do - do you mean what can you do for him, or what you can do for yourself?
You'll find a lot of strength experience and hope here anyway - glad you've found us
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Us alkies are a moody bunch. It comes from years of altering our brain chemistry. When my husband gets like that, I call him on it. No alcoholic who works their program wants to be a dry drunk. Throw him a candy bar.
AlAnon is good for support, but you already know that
This forum, and our Family and Friends forum, are pretty good too
D
This forum, and our Family and Friends forum, are pretty good too
D
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I have a zero tolerance rule in my house for negativity. The hand goes up and I give the 'FACE'- it took seven years, but I do think the effort is paying off. Encourage him to establish friendship with those in the program who seem to be LIVING their program.
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Sugar, and particularly when we are low on it, affects our moods. We were never sweets people, we were getting our fix with the drink. To keep ice cream, or other is the house is an easy pick me up and will stabilize his mood.
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he has a sponsor, does step meetings, is active in AA including service work (that is new for him). but in the last 6 months there has been 3 episodes of having gone a while without meetings and the scene is not good.
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thanks so much for your help. i really needed to make a connection and it was too late to make phone calls. I am going to ask for some guidance and turn it over for tonight. have a good night and I wish you well. d
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