jakec

It's so difficult to work on my recovery and mental health issues in a house full of immature boys. It feels like I'm the only one who is serious. I get frustrated because I can either sit in my room and isolate and get depressed or I can be around all the chaos of the house. So the one counselor there thinks it would be good for me to start going home on the weekends seeing how I may be graduating within the next month.

So I'm on an overnight pass right now. I have 103 days clean and I'm going to a meeting tonight. Feeling pretty positive, but I know I'll have to go back to the house tomorrow and I'm dreading it.

I've been thinking about leaving lately, but I just want to, for once, finish something that I started.

Words of wisdom/motivation for me to stay would be much appreciated.

Thanks,
Jake.

Dee74

I think finishing it would be good for you Jake...and who knows? some of your gravitas may rub off on one or two of the others

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FlygirlJ

Don't finish just to finish, to say that you did it, to be perfect and complete. Finish because you WANT to finish!!

Nonsensical

103 days is FANTASTIC!

The greatest oak was once a little nut who held its ground.

aasharon90

23 yrs. ago I was in a rehab facility here
in Baton Rouge after family pulled an
intervention on me. As I reflect back
on that time in my life, I was pretty
sick and thank God my family stepped
in to get me help I so needed even if
I didn't think so.

I spent 28 days in rehab away from
my little family trying to understand
what got me there in the first place
and then, after 2 weeks there, they
wanted to send me off to a halfway
house for a long period of time because
they felt that if I returned home, I
would surely drink.

So, I pleaded to remain where I was
and would do whatever I needed to
do to not be away from my little family
any longer than I had to.

I realize today, looking back, there
was no way I could comprehend
all the knowledge they were feeding
me in the way of using a program
of recovery consisting of steps and
principles to incorporate in my life
one day at a time.

Still, I listened and cried and muddled
thru till it was time for me to leave.
Then continued my program with a
6 week aftercare program on my own.

I did. And I hung on. And I raised my
little family. And I cried, and prayed,
and threw tandrums, and I was still
in a lot of pain, mentally and emotionally.

Rehab was and still is to me a gift that
I was given at that time in my life used
to save my life. I was grateful for the
opportunity to be in a secured place
for the first 28 day without alcohol.

It allowed the seed of recovery to be
planted in my heart, soul and mind so
that I could nuture it each day feeding
it with healthy knowledge of a recovery
program to begin building a strong solid
foundation to live upon for yrs. to come.

Today, I still remember that experience
and can pass it on to people like you
who are also going thru that experience
as I yrs. ago so you and others can
know that it did work for me and still
does.

Take your experience, learn, absorb
and pass it on to others and you will
soon begin to reap the rewards of the
promises stated to us.

jakec

Thank you so much aasharon

That really helped a lot.

Raider

How long do you have left Jake? Congrats on 103 days. Very cool!!!

Anna

Jake, it's great that you are at 103 days sober! Be very proud of yourself. I hope you manage to continue and finish your program, too. Like Dee, I wonder if some of the boys will pick up on your recovery.

neferkamichael

Jakec, 103 days is FANTASTIC, congratulations. It will be an accomplishment, a victory, rootin for ya.

least

Congrats on 103 days clean.

2muchpain

Jakec

I have been to rehab several times. You meet all kinds of people there and they are there for different reasons. Some because their family pressured them to go. Others are court-ordered. Others go to save their jobs or marriage. So, depending on why they are there, some are just putting in their time. I've even seen some using drugs/alcohol while there!! Couldn't believe that. Many started using as soon as they left rehab. I eventually found a few people who were serious about stopping and just hung around them and stayed away from the rest of them. Hope that helps. 103 days is fantastic!!

jakec

I may be leaving as soon as later this month.

EndGameNYC

Is this a rehab, or a sober house? In either case, finishing what we start typically makes us stronger and better prepared for life's inevitable challenges. In a month's time, being distracted by other people's indifference to recovery will be nothing more than a memory.

jakec

It's a rehab. And I agree. I'm going to stay, one day at a time, no matter how painful it is... I shared about this at the meeting tonight and one lady told me that if I finish this then it will make me stronger to get through other tough things in my recovery.

Gakx

You will appreciate the wisdom that you will gain from this experience. There are plenty of people who will get on your last nerve in life and this is good time to learn patience for others.

I would stick with it and practice removing the stress that the situation creates. You will be glad when you have turned it into another tool of sobriety.

And congratulations on 103 days!! You are an inspiration to me and others.

matt4x4

Yes when we are drinking, we are little immature boys. We do not change overnight, it takes time and it takes a ton of work on our parts.