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Old 02-25-2014, 09:54 AM
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Too much time alone

I've made through the last two nights by remembering why I am at the point I'm at. Acceptance.... What a word.
I have a fairly common story, lost the woman, house, job, dogs friends blah blah blah...living in my truck( actually not bad.. I like an adventure)saving money, just insurance and gas. I truck camp near free wi- if, keep my hygiene up, work part time for cash.... Late night I think sometimes I should just say screw it... Whiskey time. Ive been able to let the the thought go sort of... Making to another day sober.
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Old 02-25-2014, 10:03 AM
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I know how you feel. I'm in a slightly different situation, but can relate. I haven't had a real girlfriend since 2011. All of my friends have either kids or are in serious relationships. That leaves me being alone almost 99% of the time. It gets hard, and I usually turn to drinking to entertain myself and fill a void.
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Old 02-25-2014, 10:53 AM
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Keep the adventure up until you have enough to get a little place and begin your new adventure. You are doing wonderfully under the circumstances. You will get there, new home, new friends etc. Rooting for you xxxx
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I agree with Kate. You will and can get there. You are doing very well in your current situation. The only thing I really know for me is that drinking just makes things worse. So, keep on keeping on!!!
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Old 02-25-2014, 11:15 AM
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I have found a great place to make new friends who are sober... AA. I am going to just my 2nd meeting today but everyone was so welcoming last time that I feel I belong there. BTW.... I already have 19 months sober but have just been feeling lonely too.

When I walked in last friday, I immediately had a few people come up to me and introduce themselves. After the meeting, at least 10 more did the same thing. One guy put out $10 to buy me the Big Book, which really made me feel like I should be there.

Just a suggestion but it would be a warm place to hang out for a while and get some support. They might have cookies or brownies and always have fresh coffee brewing too!

Good Luck!
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Yep, I've met some wonderful people through AA too.
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Old 02-25-2014, 11:38 AM
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Meetings are keeping me sharp, learning to be sober is the deal.
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Old 02-25-2014, 11:39 AM
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Old 02-25-2014, 12:48 PM
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Your situation seems close to mine. I'm selling plasma tomorrow so I can buy 20 cent raman noodles and gas. But I accept my situation, the reality. I try to stay cheerful. I know it will get better. Looking for a job.

Alone? Stay active in this forum. I want to keep hearing from you. Free wifi! Find other alcoholics to talk to. I'm starting to just enjoy talking to people and get out of my comfort zone. Isolation makes me want to drink. Stay strong.

I've made 3 posts in like five minutes. Having some fun being engaged.

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Old 02-25-2014, 12:51 PM
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What everyone else said plus not drinking = more $ in pocket
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Old 02-25-2014, 12:54 PM
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I visit my ex and more importantly my 3 Italian greyhounds.walking away... They all stand in the window watching their pack leader walk away, it's very sad. That used to send me to a pity party, aka drinking. Now I'm just sad. No drinking. It just seems to take time to manage myself in a positive way, turns my stomach. It will get better. Right?
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Old 02-25-2014, 01:02 PM
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It will get better. You're feeling feelings rather than numbing out. That's a good sign you can tolerate that. I love the fact that you're just sad and not throwing a pity party. That's progress.
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If you remain sober you have 100% chances things will get better. If you drink 100% things will worsen.

Sounds like a win win solution? Just hang on and keep you eyes on the prize.
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Old 02-25-2014, 01:35 PM
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Originally Posted by Hope4Life View Post

I have found a great place to make new friends who are sober... AA.

been feeling lonely too.

Just a suggestion but it would be a warm place to hang out for a while and get some support. They might have cookies or brownies and always have fresh coffee brewing too!
I agree
AA meetings are a great place for ones in Recovery to hang out
those sober drunks understand us
and we also relate to them

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Old 02-25-2014, 01:52 PM
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Hi Axle

You're in a great place to rebuild your life, and staying sober is the first step

Welcome to SR
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