FourSeasons

I have 2 six packs of beer and a bottle of Prosecco sitting in my fridge for tomorrow... I only hope I can get through tonight... This is a tough one... Plus... I hate the holidays so having it sit in my fridge is not helping at all...

KateL

Is it for your visitors? Just tell yourself if you drink it you will feel horrible tomorrow. Then tomorrow you will have a spring in your step x

PurpleKnight

That's tough, I'm assuming it's for other people tomorrow during Christmas day?

I know that it's soo cold here in Ireland, that I'd be putting it out in my car for the night, it'd still be cold come morning/afternoon for when it's needed!

FourSeasons

It is for a Christmas celebration tomorrow afternoon. I don't even want to go... This is just such a difficult time of year for me. Plus, I am not sure if I have PAWS. I have been weepy for the past 10 days. Everything has been bringing a tear to my eye ... from commercials with puppies to an elderly gentleman being helped across the street by a young college lad... I am a basket case...

Carlotta

Just dump them. Alcohol does not bother me but I keep a dry house since I live alone. If I had a bottle in the fridge (let s say for a diner party) and my AV was messing with me, it would be bye bye booze in a New York minute. I'd do anything not to jeopardize my sobriety.
I am serious, people are coming tomorrow to see you not to get free booze. If they have issues hanging out in a dry house, then they were not here for you in the first place and they are welcome to go pay for their own drinks at the pub.

Carlotta

Just dump the alcohol and bring some chocolates instead if you decide to go.
Be strong, this is not a good combination and you don t want to decide to not go (isolate) and have booze in the house.

Beanie25

There is no way I could have alcohol in my house when I was feeling wobbly and fragile. Think of all those negative thoughts and feelings that would come with picking up. Stay strong.

heath480

Christmas in early sobriety can be a difficult time.

If you are feeling that your sobriety is in danger get rid of the Alcohol.Take another gift with you.

Wishing you well.

foolsgold66

This is a difficult time of year for many. We are with you. You can do this.

EverySngleNight

Pour it out.. text everybody and tell them "hey, I forgot to grab drinks- BYOB, thx guys! sry" Do you think that would work? That's probably what I'd do.

Carlotta

I m not sure what method of recovery you are doing, if you are in a support group (AA or SMART...), call someone and go to a meeting.
In case you have no f2f support, here is some crash AVRT

It looks like your beast is trying to set you up.
Why would a sober alcoholic buy alcohol to bring to a get together? When I go to a party or potluck, I bring a cake or some soda or some potato salad (you get the drift).
The bright idea to bring some alcohol was not yours, it was your Addictive Voice setting the stage so the Beast could drink.
So now It (the AV) told you it would be a good idea to bring booze and now It is working you.
You are NOT the AV. You are a sober person. You can move your hand, you can dump the booze.

Quick exercise from the Rational Recovery book:
Will yourself to lift your hand to your face...see you did it. Now tell your AV to do it. See?
It cannot do it, it cannot control your motor skills.
That voice is not you.
Separate yourself from it, tell it: I do not drink.
Then walk to the fridge and dump that booze.

FourSeasons

Hey Carlotta - It was not my idea to bring booze. I wanted to bake cupcakes or cookies! I was asked to bring the booze in lieu of food. I didn't say no to that. Also, the hostess does not know my true struggles and reasons to stop drinking. I have surgery at the end of January so this has been a great reason not to drink.

Thank you for bringing up the AV. You have given me something to think about... I did not blink an eye when asked to bring booze. When asked, I said "Not a problem... Consider it done... I will pick it up now!!!" I am so obliging like that... That is excellent food for thought, Carlotta.

Anna

Learning to say No was a huge step for me in recovery.

No more agreeing to do things I didn't want to do, with people I didn't really want to spend time with. I stayed away from alcohol and people who were drinking for many, many months.

My advice is to stay home or go out somewhere where alcohol is not an issue.

Carlotta

Mags1

It's true, we tend to be nice and obliging, putting down our own feelings.

I found with sobriety I've found honesty, too much maybe, but I agree with Be true to thy self.

Merry Christmas, it's 12.30 Christmas Day in the uk.

foolsgold66

You got this. You should be proud of your sober time. Keep yourself occupied. Crying not allowed.

Carlotta

Merry Christmas. I hope you are ok Let us know how it went.