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EndGame
Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: New York, NY
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Hi Mags1.
My recommendation is to offer to go to couples therapy with him, and that if he doesn't go, you'll go on your own.
Whether he goes or not, find someone who works with couples. You'll have someone to talk to who can help you through your struggle. Working with a therapist also helps to mitigate our making impulsive decisions.
My recommendation is to offer to go to couples therapy with him, and that if he doesn't go, you'll go on your own.
Whether he goes or not, find someone who works with couples. You'll have someone to talk to who can help you through your struggle. Working with a therapist also helps to mitigate our making impulsive decisions.
Learning to LIve
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: NSW Australia
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[QUOTE=LadyBlue0527;4309602]
So here's the awesome part of being sober. NOW, when he made a different excuse for not getting together with friends I calmly and rationally got upset and spoke to him about it. He's willing to try because what I have to say is VALID and I now have something that I didn't have when I was drinking. I have the right to be listened to because my requests merit discussion, they are not the words of a belligerent drunk. They are coming from a sober and reasonable person. I LOVE IT. I have MERIT!
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Love it LadyBlue ... I actually have sensible sober adult discussions with him and don't find myself losing them all the time
So here's the awesome part of being sober. NOW, when he made a different excuse for not getting together with friends I calmly and rationally got upset and spoke to him about it. He's willing to try because what I have to say is VALID and I now have something that I didn't have when I was drinking. I have the right to be listened to because my requests merit discussion, they are not the words of a belligerent drunk. They are coming from a sober and reasonable person. I LOVE IT. I have MERIT!
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Love it LadyBlue ... I actually have sensible sober adult discussions with him and don't find myself losing them all the time
Kaleidoscope eyes
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: London
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[QUOTE=LSC1;4310434] I like that
Originally Posted by LadyBlue0527 
So here's the awesome part of being sober. NOW, when he made a different excuse for not getting together with friends I calmly and rationally got upset and spoke to him about it. He's willing to try because what I have to say is VALID and I now have something that I didn't have when I was drinking. I have the right to be listened to because my requests merit discussion, they are not the words of a belligerent drunk. They are coming from a sober and reasonable person. I LOVE IT. I have MERIT!
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Love it LadyBlue ... I actually have sensible sober adult discussions with him and don't find myself losing them all the time
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Love it LadyBlue ... I actually have sensible sober adult discussions with him and don't find myself losing them all the time
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