made the right choice tonight
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made the right choice tonight
so today (well, yesterday technically) was me and my husband's ninth wedding anniversary. the only problem was, Tuesday night i have an open big book meeting that i attend with a lot of friends and it starts at 8:30 with people meeting for fellowship at 7:15. so i have a decision to make. blow off the fellowship and the meeting and go to dinner with the hubby, go for fellowship and skip the meeting for a romantic dinner or the two of us blow our anniversary dinner for fellowship and a meeting. i made the right choice. we went out with my friends together and attended the meeting together.
now, in the meeting, we read a paragraph out of the big book and pause for discussion (if there is any). well, we were most of the way through "To Wives" tonight and i got hit hard by a passage. Page 119, first full paragraph. it's a long one but the gist of it is that the alcoholic's partner may become resentful of the alcoholic's newfound focus on sobriety and AA. i sat there with my husband sitting next to me on our anniversary. earlier, i'd texted my mom to let her know about our plans and she said she was so proud of me. my whole family supports me. my inlaws support me. my community and friends all support me. and there are people out there who don't get that. and i spoke up and i just started sobbing. it came out of nowhere. but there's my guy next to me and he holds my hand while the tears of gratitude stream down my face. he kept hold of it through most of the meeting.
best
d*amn
anniversary
ever
now, in the meeting, we read a paragraph out of the big book and pause for discussion (if there is any). well, we were most of the way through "To Wives" tonight and i got hit hard by a passage. Page 119, first full paragraph. it's a long one but the gist of it is that the alcoholic's partner may become resentful of the alcoholic's newfound focus on sobriety and AA. i sat there with my husband sitting next to me on our anniversary. earlier, i'd texted my mom to let her know about our plans and she said she was so proud of me. my whole family supports me. my inlaws support me. my community and friends all support me. and there are people out there who don't get that. and i spoke up and i just started sobbing. it came out of nowhere. but there's my guy next to me and he holds my hand while the tears of gratitude stream down my face. he kept hold of it through most of the meeting.
best
d*amn
anniversary
ever
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He's a lucky guy! By staying sober you're committing to giving him the gift of your whole self for the rest of your lives! That is such a major thing, DisplacedGRITS. I can see so clearly now that when I was drinking I was never fully present in my relationships with people. I was either thinking about getting drunk, being drunk or getting over the last drunken episode.
It's great to hear you're doing well. It can be heartbreaking to read all the posts from people at the end of their ropes just trying to hang on. Those people were us, not long ago. It's good to hear from someone coming through the other side.
It's great to hear you're doing well. It can be heartbreaking to read all the posts from people at the end of their ropes just trying to hang on. Those people were us, not long ago. It's good to hear from someone coming through the other side.
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