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Hi there. I have basically just joined this group after a few months of realisation that I have a massive issue with alcohol, particularly wine. To cut a long story short, the night before last I basically waited while my husband was out and started drinking wine from a half pint glass, trying to drink as much as I could in the 2 hours I knew he would be out. Recipie for disaster indeed. Needless to say he came back to be in an intoxicated state with a couple of wine bottles around me covered in vomit. Attractive. Needless to say I also had to call in sick from work the next day. This is not the first time by a long shot. I know I will lose my relationship if I do not take some drastic action and I am fed up of drinking alone and being unproductive and generally crap! I feel like an awful person.
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I think it's good to remember we are not our addiction, Ruthie.
Whatever we've done, we're not bad people, just in the grip of something bad.
we can turn things around and start being the people we really are again
D
Whatever we've done, we're not bad people, just in the grip of something bad.
we can turn things around and start being the people we really are again
D
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Originally Posted by ruthiecrawford 
I feel like an awful person.
Please know, the disease from which you suffer is awful. Not you!
Stay strong and stay close!
Ruthie... you are poorly, not awful, and you can get better *hugs* xx
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Originally Posted by ruthiecrawford
Hi there. I have basically just joined this group after a few months of realisation that I have a massive issue with alcohol, particularly wine. To cut a long story short, the night before last I basically waited while my husband was out and started drinking wine from a half pint glass, trying to drink as much as I could in the 2 hours I knew he would be out. Recipie for disaster indeed. Needless to say he came back to be in an intoxicated state with a couple of wine bottles around me covered in vomit. Attractive. Needless to say I also had to call in sick from work the next day. This is not the first time by a long shot. I know I will lose my relationship if I do not take some drastic action and I am fed up of drinking alone and being unproductive and generally crap! I feel like an awful person.
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Keep posting and reading this forum and I hope this gives you the motivation to find better things in life then the bottom of an empty wine glass because I believe there are. Best of luck and don't give up. Give sobriety a chance.
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Welcome, Ruthie! I can relate to just being fed up of drinking alone and being unproductive. That's exactly how I felt when I quit this last time round, nearly 3 months ago. You're not crap. Our addictions are an illness, they are not us and they do not have to define us. I'm now nearly three months sober and feel so much better within myself and about myself. And I'm so much more productive. This is what I want for you too. Read around the forums and you'll find out about the different ways in which people here got sober and stay sober.
Read around the forums and you'll find out about the different ways in which people here got sober and stay sober.
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Originally Posted by Louise82
Welcome, Ruthie! I can relate to just being fed up of drinking alone and being unproductive. That's exactly how I felt when I quit this last time round, nearly 3 months ago. You're not crap. Our addictions are an illness, they are not us and they do not have to define us. I'm now nearly three months sober and feel so much better within myself and about myself. And I'm so much more productive. This is what I want for you too. Read around the forums and you'll find out about the different ways in which people here got sober and stay sober.
Read around the forums and you'll find out about the different ways in which people here got sober and stay sober.
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Welcome Ruthie,I also drank wine every night at home and felt physically and mentally unwell most of the time as a result. I'm now nearly 10 months sober and feel better than I ever have done.
Friday night get yourself some treats, icecream, chocolate,a good Dvd,something nice to drink non alco of course,bubble bath,good book and stay glued to SR
Friday night get yourself some treats, icecream, chocolate,a good Dvd,something nice to drink non alco of course,bubble bath,good book and stay glued to SR
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Well done on day 3 Ruthie. I find planning my weekend in advance helps. We have a weekend thread on here every weekend where we all support one another through it. It's posted on Fridays. Just post on it to join. Everyone would be delighted to see you.
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ruthie, welcome to SR!
Can you make a plan to do something on Fridays that takes you out of the house? I told my husband that I needed a plan so that we're not sitting at home.
Starting with the first Friday that I was sober we planned ahead and went to the movies every week. I've seen more movies in the past 4 months than I have in the 10 years prior to that! When you get home log into SR and post and read for a while.
The key is to keep your brain busy and not idle.
You can do this!
Can you make a plan to do something on Fridays that takes you out of the house? I told my husband that I needed a plan so that we're not sitting at home.
Starting with the first Friday that I was sober we planned ahead and went to the movies every week. I've seen more movies in the past 4 months than I have in the 10 years prior to that! When you get home log into SR and post and read for a while.
The key is to keep your brain busy and not idle.
You can do this!
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