SkyeSea

You'll get through the day - just take a bottle of water with you and take things as easy as possible. Can you get an extension on the essays?
I was also a binge drinker and those first few days ARE horrible, but you CAN get through them. I wrote down how I was feeling, so that if I was ever tempted, I could remind myself (it's amazing how quickly we forget)

You know, I doubt people will notice that much that you've stopped drinking - I find that once the people around me have had a drink or two, they soon forget/don't realise, that you're not drinking alcohol.

Welcome to SR - you are not alone with this - there are thousands of us

bingedrink

thanks seasky, anytime i have ever said to anyone i think i have a problem they say no you dont it just when u drink wine or shots u go a bit nut, but i know myself once i start to drink doesnt matter what it is i lead to me wanting more and not being able to say no when i am offered more, all my family drinks, my partner drinks so it am just going to have to have the strenth to say no, my peace mind is more important and my sleep and well being, i know i will have to give up the pubs and parties for a while because it to tempting and i am not strong enough yet, i can go a month without a drink but as soon as i socialise i get all nervous and drink, i have said no before but was told i was no fun and boring because i wont not drink so then i drank to keep people happy,

SkyeSea

I used to fall for that trap - ie 'only drank beer' or 'only drank wine'.... then I realised alcohol is alcohol - doesn't matter what it's dressed up in

Yeah, I'm the same with socialising, but it CAN be done sober - trust me

bingedrink

i am glad to hear that it can be done some point sober but i dont think i am ready yet to socialise i will give myself a few weeks or months before i go to a pub, party or bar. i was speaking to my brother in law today about how i want to give up and he said sure everyone was drunk at the party and no one cares , he said it wasnt my fault that the guying hosting the party was filling everyone with drink, and that i should just forget about it and stay away from shots but i know myself from the past that drinking just doesnt suit me it make my aggresive angry depressed for a week after it just not worth it, i just hope my family can support me but they have there own issues with drink and i think that if i go off it it will make them feel uncomfortable. i wish someone would say yeah u do have a problem

bingedrink

i got through my college today i felt a bit paranoid at time because my arms are all cut and my back soar so i was in a lot of pain and trying to hide my cut arms, i was so warm and i couldnt even take my jacket off, the marks i have were left there by my partner who said i was very aggresive and he was trying to control me, as i dont remember i have only his word to go on, i have cuts on my elbow and head he said i went flying down the stairs and into the wall, i do remembering him getting mad at me shouting and screaming and i slapped him because he pushed me, he or i have never behaved like this before, i have been verbally abusive to him when i drink in the past but never physcial this has made me see now i really do have a big problem, and if he did push me hard it was because i provoked his anger, we dont live together so i dont know how he feeling about me now he hasnt called or txt me since sunday, i just have to get this of my chest at the moment it seems to help me,

SkyeSea

Well done for getting through college and please try to stop torturing yourself over what happened. Truth is, you won't remember, no matter how hard you try, coz ..well basically you were drunk.
I would just treat it as a lesson that you don't want to repeat and think of it as the beginning of a whole new life
Have you tried contacting your bf, to see how things stand, or do you not feel like you want to do that?
Hang in there and don't drink - it will only make things worse x

bingedrink

thanks skyesea i slept well last night, feel a bit tired but i am not beating my self up as much. everyone in college is planning a night out, i am saying noting because i dont plan to go it to early and i dont want to waste another week of my life with a hangover, i got to books from the library and i am going to educate myself on the subject. how long have u been of the drink and is it hard,

SkyeSea

Glad you got a good sleep - bet you feel loads better
The books sound like a great idea too - good for you!
Me? I've been off it 2 weeks this time (had a few months in the past, but blew it)
It's not a bundle of laughs to get off it, especially the first few days, but neither is it as bad as you imagine. It's totally doable and you sound like you're committed to it

bingedrink

Yeah i feel commited to it this time. I am fed up of feeling bad after a binge. I just hope i can stay stronge.

jesternudder

Welcome to SR. I am 50 and also here fighting the Binge Monster. Those hangovers and the remorse and mystery injuries are so awful. I never want to do it again.
People here are very supportive and you are truly not alone in your situation. There are lots of methods to cease drinking and if you look around the site here you can find info on all of them. All the best to you!

bingedrink

Thanks i will source all the help i can get. Binge drinking has been part of my life since i was 15. i will be happy to leave that life behind. Are you still binge drinking or have u stopped. It is a constant struggle if u want to.socialise

bingedrink

hi all today was not a great day for me i felt tired all day and really irritable, i guess am just stressed with assignment due soon and no work done, it time like this i want go out at wkend for a drink but i know it will make next week hell, so i am going stay strong and keep reading my books take care chat soon

bingedrink

today i had a stressful day i went for a driving lesson and i was so nervous, then later my daughter and son had a big argument over ice cream then it turned to other things and they just kept shouting and screaming at each other. i felt like i couldnt cope and i felt like saying no wonder i binge drink ever now and again, but i didnt, i am up my room now with a soar head, i have the evening free and i just want crawl under the blanket and sleep until morning,

Pipping

I am a binge drinker too. I can never stop at one and will continue to drink until I pass out or become violently sick. I have said and done some horrible things while drinking, things I would never say or do in a million years sober. Admitting you have a problem takes a huge weight off. I read the forums for 2 weeks before joining and have found the information and advice invaluable. I wish you all the best, try and be kind to yourself. Sending you hugs today.

bingedrink

Thanks piping. I say nasty things and i know if effect all my relationships. I always seem to go fot men that also drink a lot a be nasty back. But now i wont to change because i met someone who i know wont put up with it and they are never nasty to me.

coming_clean

Welcome..

if drinking brings out destructive patterns and your 'worst'.

Maybe it is a good idea to stop drinking? Especially if moderation does not work for you.

bingedrink

Hi i had a nice peacful weekend you just dont realise until u stop that u have wasted so many wkends because of hangovers. I got so much done this wkend. And felt good

Marktg34

Stop and think binge drink.

I had the same issues only with food. If I was stressed I would stress eat. If I was depressed I would eat . I think I had a phase of binge drinking but it was work related stress drinking. If somebody looked at me the wrong way due you see what I am saying.

I still have body issues and I don't like mirrors !
Just think how your going to feel like in half a hour later.
Wait it out before reacting to your feeling .