Once again at Day 1
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Once again at Day 1
The sobriety count starts as of today. Today hasn't entirely started yet but I'm feeling confident about this time. The only problem I have is that I've told so many people so many times that I'm going to stay sober and then I fall back again. It has made me lose so many friends. I just need to show them that this time is different than all the other times which is going to take a while for them to understand since I haven't made it past 30 days in a long time.
The sobriety count starts as of today. Today hasn't entirely started yet but I'm feeling confident about this time. The only problem I have is that I've told so many people so many times that I'm going to stay sober and then I fall back again. It has made me lose so many friends. I just need to show them that this time is different than all the other times which is going to take a while for them to understand since I haven't made it past 30 days in a long time.
It can be hard willing yourself with no external help.
You don't need to show them anything right now. The only person you need concern yourself with is you. Amends for past mistakes and living amends takes time.
I wanted everything to be okay right now. Today. That is not going to happen. Recovery takes work and it takes time but you have to try not to look at tomorrow or the next day or next week. One day at a time. Look only at today, hour by hour if you have to.
Hang in there!
I wanted everything to be okay right now. Today. That is not going to happen. Recovery takes work and it takes time but you have to try not to look at tomorrow or the next day or next week. One day at a time. Look only at today, hour by hour if you have to.
Hang in there!
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Hi. I hate to remember how many times I was where you are. I needed AA to straighten my twisted alcoholic thinking. Unfortunately it took about 2 years to plug the jug because I was unique in my sick mind, they called it terminal uniqueness and I was on a very slippery slope. Finally after too much pain I got honest with MYSELF, realized I could NOT drink in safety and hey stupid it's the first drink that gets me drunk! Many meetings, getting very active, many meetings and WORKING the steps of recovery have worked for me for over 30 years. For me AA is the softest easy way. Many prefer other methods which might work also which I question the long term success rate, say over ten years. BE WELL
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Don't worry about what people think. I know that's not easy. You can do it. Don't ever give up. It sounds like you're using the Willpower method, and that is not going to work for very long. The subconscious is too strong. Then you feel worse when you have a failure, and round and round and round. I recommend (to everyone) Alcohol Lied to Me by Craig Beck, and Allen Carr's book the EasyWay to Stop Drinking. Read and follow both like I've done. Both reiterate the same strategies in a slightly different way. It will all be so clear to you after reading them, you won't ever want to touch another drink. Literally changed my life. Best wishes!
Don't worry about what people think. I know that's not easy. You can do it. Don't ever give up. It sounds like you're using the Willpower method, and that is not going to work for very long. The subconscious is too strong. Then you feel worse when you have a failure, and round and round and round. I recommend (to everyone) Alcohol Lied to Me by Craig Beck.
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I agree - you can't worry about anyone else except yourself. That is the most important part - and make a pact with yourself. You and you alone can stop drinking. Its not so much about announcing it to everyone - its about making a promise to yourself and sticking too it. Its about wanting to get better.
Congrats on Day 1 !!!!!
Congrats on Day 1 !!!!!
TheNew, I'm back at day Zero again? You are FANTASTIC. Congratulations. Just never give up and keep gettin back on your horse if ya fall off again and you'll quit, sooner or later, and I hope it is sooner than later. Rootin for ya.
TheNew,
You are great!
I'm an addict too. I understand.
Do it for you now. You. Not for anyone else.
Make the announcement of quitting to yourself, make a plan for yourself.
Let everyone else just figure it out as they see you get clean. You can't do this to prove something to someone else.
You can do it, you are worth the work to stay clean!
You are great!
I'm an addict too. I understand.
Do it for you now. You. Not for anyone else.
Make the announcement of quitting to yourself, make a plan for yourself.
Let everyone else just figure it out as they see you get clean. You can't do this to prove something to someone else.
You can do it, you are worth the work to stay clean!
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