I Caved
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I Caved
I caved big time tonight! About 12 pints and 4 double whiskey's, So ashamed right now and my mate gave me a lift back from the pub and he kept going on and on and on with his lecture about my drinking etc Guys im really depressed right now 
i managed 4 whole days and now THIS! My own stupid fault i know!
i managed 4 whole days and now THIS! My own stupid fault i know!
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Many of us faltered a time or two chilledice.
For me I had to do two things to make recovery stick - I had to change a lot of things in my life - some friends, the things I did socially, and some hang outs especially...
and I had to find support to stay sober.
If SRs not enough support for you, maybe you need to look at some realworld face to face methods?
Not sure where you are but things like AA and SMART are in most countries...
I recommend you visit the Secular Connections forum if you think you may benefit from a non 12 step approach like AVRT.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ined-long.html
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For me I had to do two things to make recovery stick - I had to change a lot of things in my life - some friends, the things I did socially, and some hang outs especially...
and I had to find support to stay sober.
If SRs not enough support for you, maybe you need to look at some realworld face to face methods?
Not sure where you are but things like AA and SMART are in most countries...
I recommend you visit the Secular Connections forum if you think you may benefit from a non 12 step approach like AVRT.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ined-long.html
D
Jules
Join Date: Nov 2011
Location: ohio
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I'm sorry for your pain chilledice but I can say I do appreciate you sharing. I'm 29 days sober today and am looking forward to day 30 but some **** is happening now and it had me thinking a drink might "solve" some of my worries. Just to not have to deal with life for a few minutes. I realize that drinking solves nothing but its been the way I deal for so long I'm still learning other ways.
Sobriety is a journey and not all of us "get it" at first. Sometimes we have to fall to learn the true lesson. I'm finally realizing it starts with the first drink, thats what gets the ball rolling. Alcohol just reacts differently in my body.
I started getting really serious about sobriety after many failed attempts. I have been journaling, going to AA, exercising, posting here on SR and really being honest with myself about what I am (alcoholic) and not making the excuses I used to use to drink. I've had maybe one or two bad days in the past month but overall it has been good. And I'm happy and don't hate myself.
So thanks again for the reminder. You can do this sobriety thing. It is a hard lesson to learn but is well worth it. Take care!
Sobriety is a journey and not all of us "get it" at first. Sometimes we have to fall to learn the true lesson. I'm finally realizing it starts with the first drink, thats what gets the ball rolling. Alcohol just reacts differently in my body.
I started getting really serious about sobriety after many failed attempts. I have been journaling, going to AA, exercising, posting here on SR and really being honest with myself about what I am (alcoholic) and not making the excuses I used to use to drink. I've had maybe one or two bad days in the past month but overall it has been good. And I'm happy and don't hate myself.
So thanks again for the reminder. You can do this sobriety thing. It is a hard lesson to learn but is well worth it. Take care!
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as with dee, if i didnt change notin, nothin was gonna change. most of that changing was internal; takin a good look at myself and findingout what makes me tick.
but to do that, i couldnt use my thinkin. thats what got me to the point of desperation.i had to find people that had been in my shoes and use their thinkin to fix my thinkin.
but to do that, i couldnt use my thinkin. thats what got me to the point of desperation.i had to find people that had been in my shoes and use their thinkin to fix my thinkin.
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Originally Posted by Chilledice 
I have ZERO idea how i am going to stay sober Least!
Living with that voice in your head telling you to just have two today... just be more careful next time... quit next Monday... it doesn't matter now anyways... that's not so easy. I know - I have one, too.
We can do this.
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I'm an alcoholic who couldn't quit drinking and stay quit on my own so I joined AA.
It's worked for me for over 23 yrs .... might just be the ticket for you too.
All the best.
Bob R
It's worked for me for over 23 yrs .... might just be the ticket for you too.
All the best.
Bob R
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Quit again now. Don't allow a drinking culture back in your life sober up wash up and start again you know how you can't just have a couple so test over , it's a good thing to remember how wrong it goes , now beat 4 days. Don't drink through the weekend make this your first free weekend and by Monday you'll be on day three go for the week then the magic ten, just keep counting and one day at a time.
Good luck John.
Good luck John.
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It was your pay day yesterday wasn't it chille?
Did you do what was suggested and put a solid plan in place to not drink?
If not... then that was some pretty solid advice and you could try it again next pay day.
If you did... then there are other things to try...look up all the different techniques, there's a list of some in the secular non AA recovery.
Hope your not too hungover this morning!
Did you do what was suggested and put a solid plan in place to not drink?
If not... then that was some pretty solid advice and you could try it again next pay day.
If you did... then there are other things to try...look up all the different techniques, there's a list of some in the secular non AA recovery.
Hope your not too hungover this morning!
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