Garden Girl

So on a break at work tonight, a coworker pulled out her phone to check her Facebook, and some pictures of her friends appeared. The 1st thing I think is: she has a bunch of normal friends. Digesting what that means in my head is weird.... Heck, that last sentence was weird... I think I'm weird. Moving forward, I don't feel comfortable around people most of the time. I don't understand small talk, and I am not very good at it. I am a very very good listener, so good people think I am not listening, but i am, very intensely, and i think hard before I respond. I don't just talk for the sake of making the room fill with noise. I guess I get frustrated watching everyone converse and make friends, and adjust to one another's company so easily. It seems as if friendships just cluster together like rice crispies in melted marshmallows, where I sit to the side and feel like burnt toast... That's me, the stinky awkward girl in school nobody wants to make friends with is happening all over again!!! Well, I think all in all, I need to learn to accept that it is ok not to be someone else, but be me. I am sure that will come in time, but for now, can't I just complain about all the normal people!?! ( so sorry to any normal people reading this )

hypochondriac

I'll be your friend Seriously, most of the people I seem to know are the type to control the conversation in the room and 'hold court'. I can't abide that. I am rubbish in groups of people but okay one on one. But unfortunately people seem to move in packs. I am a good listener too. It's surprising how many people aren't, most people just wait for their turn to speak. So from my perspective you sound like the normal one x

Garden Girl

With a name like hypochondriac, we must be just like each other! LOL!! You sound just like me, seriously, I am great one on one with someone I know well, but you put me in a crowd, and my brain goes kaput.

Garen

I'm pretty good one-on-one and garbage in groups. We are among the smarter folks because we listen and our brains get accustomed to taking in information.

Try a thought experiment and put yourself in their shoes. Try hard to truly imagine all the ups and downs that go with being one of those center of attention types. You might find that they are no better off.

We all got problems we need to work out in our heads, they just take different angles. Whether you are better one-on-one or in groups, or whether you talk too much or not enough, it doesn't matter. There is no such thing anyway as too much or not enough. Not sure where our brains get the idea that we need to be a certain way. There is no rule - lets relax and enjoy the view.

Nonsensical

You might be a man.

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I'll be here all week, don't forget to tip your servers.

But seriously...

I have this posted on my office wall:

"Mimicking the herd invites regression to the mean."

That's a fancy way of saying "Why be normal?"

Be yourself. Trying to be what everyone else wants will just lead to unhappiness.

FBL

IMO, "normal" is boring. I'd rather be my own unique self than run with the herd