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hi, this is my first post!
went out with an alcoholic for a year and a half, it was a rolker
Coaster ride!!! I did fall in love! He daid hr eas seperated, not true!
He did say beautiful things to me, but also
Was emotionall abusive, i stayed because i loved him!
he disapoeared after a year and went bavk to
His wife who was having her own drinking problems!
they sought counselling, had not seen him for a year!
a mitual friend told me he was asking about me and that
He and his wife were living seperate and the house
Was for sale! He had joined AA and had almost a year!
i went to visit him, and just gave him support! We had a great
Conversation. He came on to me and wanted to go to bed,
Halfway he stopped and said he could not do this!
He told me he saw his metal and that stopped him.
He got angry , said mean things to me and stormed out
Of the bedroom. He came back and did apologixe and said
He could not be in a relatiobship with anyone right
Now!! He thanked me fir being a friend to him!
So confused. As i love him!
Plesse any comments greatly wekcome! I have sent him
A one day at a time card for support!
He came on to me and finally i gave in, i still am
In love wifh him!
I
went out with an alcoholic for a year and a half, it was a rolker
Coaster ride!!! I did fall in love! He daid hr eas seperated, not true!
He did say beautiful things to me, but also
Was emotionall abusive, i stayed because i loved him!
he disapoeared after a year and went bavk to
His wife who was having her own drinking problems!
they sought counselling, had not seen him for a year!
a mitual friend told me he was asking about me and that
He and his wife were living seperate and the house
Was for sale! He had joined AA and had almost a year!
i went to visit him, and just gave him support! We had a great
Conversation. He came on to me and wanted to go to bed,
Halfway he stopped and said he could not do this!
He told me he saw his metal and that stopped him.
He got angry , said mean things to me and stormed out
Of the bedroom. He came back and did apologixe and said
He could not be in a relatiobship with anyone right
Now!! He thanked me fir being a friend to him!
So confused. As i love him!
Plesse any comments greatly wekcome! I have sent him
A one day at a time card for support!
He came on to me and finally i gave in, i still am
In love wifh him!
I
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Welcome! The Friends and Family Forum is a great place to get support for those who have alcoholics in their lives, so you might want to check that out. As an alcoholic myself, I know that I can be manipulative and selfish in my relationships with other people. I don't think I can really comment on your situation with this person, but you said he told you he doesn't want a relationship with you. You deserve someone who does!
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There are no official rules for dating in recovery. I can't speak to why he doesn't want a relationship. All you need to know is that he doesn't and honor his wishes. You can't make him want to be with you, whether he's in recovery or not. I hope you find what you're looking for. There are lots of people with experience dealing with alcoholics in the Friends and Family section; you may get more responses there.
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