running the recovery race
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running the recovery race
I visited my boyfriend yesterday for the first time in a couple weeks. I was nervouse and excited, because it was like meeting for the first time again. It was amazing. Talking to him is like talking to a brand new person. He is more motivated and determined than I ever thought possible. He only talks in a day to day basis and never looks at the broad sense of things in fear he will get overwhelmed. Every single person I met had such great things to say about him and how he's such a positive energy around the center.
He leaves at the end of this week and will immediately go to a recovery house for the next couple of months. I know this is a good thing, despite being apart for so long, but I am scared. He sounds great and feels even better, normal he said, but I hope he keeps this clear state of mind.
I know it is completely up to him how long he stays clean and in recovery. I know I can only be a supporter on the side lines. His counselor made swo much sense on the phone the other day about his recovery. He said that I have to look at it as him running a race, and the more I try and run it with him and get in his way the more he will fall and eventually lose the race. I need to be a cheerleader on the sidelines. I am understanding that more and more everyday. Little obstacles stand in our way, but I have to let him deal with it however he can.
This next step in the process still scares me though.
He leaves at the end of this week and will immediately go to a recovery house for the next couple of months. I know this is a good thing, despite being apart for so long, but I am scared. He sounds great and feels even better, normal he said, but I hope he keeps this clear state of mind.
I know it is completely up to him how long he stays clean and in recovery. I know I can only be a supporter on the side lines. His counselor made swo much sense on the phone the other day about his recovery. He said that I have to look at it as him running a race, and the more I try and run it with him and get in his way the more he will fall and eventually lose the race. I need to be a cheerleader on the sidelines. I am understanding that more and more everyday. Little obstacles stand in our way, but I have to let him deal with it however he can.
This next step in the process still scares me though.
My wife says I am a different person as well. Try to do as he does and take it just one day at a time. I do not know the next step but do it with openness and honesty and you will be fine. There is a forum for friends and family of addicts and alcoholics on this site as well.
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