What would your recipe for relapse be, and what are you doing to prevent it?
Left the bottle behind 4/16/2015
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: NC
Posts: 1,416
You named one thing that wouldn't necessarily cause me to wanna drink again but it would certainly make it easier to do so: keeping liquor (or any alcohol) in the house.
Of course, for me , that would mean having to wait until the Antabuse is out of my system in order to act on that temptation. That's why I keep taking it!
Of course, for me , that would mean having to wait until the Antabuse is out of my system in order to act on that temptation. That's why I keep taking it!
Keeping it simple!
Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Surrey, BC
Posts: 3,282
If you would have asked me this when I first quit drinking it would have been keeping booze around or putting myself in situations that would have given me an excuse.
The way I feel now it boils down to a choice. If I want to get drunk more than I want sobriety, I will drink. I have no illusions about it, I know I won't beable to control it once I start. I don't think in terms of one or two drinks, I am wanting the whole bottle and more than just one.
I think it would kill me because I don't know if I have another recovery in me. This is one of the things that helps keep me sober because it scares me that I could literally drink myself to death.
The way I feel now it boils down to a choice. If I want to get drunk more than I want sobriety, I will drink. I have no illusions about it, I know I won't beable to control it once I start. I don't think in terms of one or two drinks, I am wanting the whole bottle and more than just one.
I think it would kill me because I don't know if I have another recovery in me. This is one of the things that helps keep me sober because it scares me that I could literally drink myself to death.
Trudgin
Join Date: Jul 2014
Posts: 6,348
How to relapse from the Betty Crunk Cook Book;
Allowing resentments to creep in - such as when a moderator on SR moves my thread to another forum and I get virtually zero views or comments
Allow anger to get the best of me when guy at auto repair had car all day and only changed oil(even though I explained the issue and made an appointment) - stating "the only guy who can diagnose the issue isn't here today, my bad"
Having a sponsor who is typically unavailable or replies only in 15 words of texts occasionally.
Letting my wife explain the best route for me to take driving home from point A to B, knowing her suggestion will take me directly in front of my favorite old bar and buddies.
And ......now that my head has cleared some, remembering where I put that weed.
How not to fall in the trap;
Apologize to moderator and explain I'm new and will try to post in the most appropriate place
Forgive the auto repair facility realizing we all make mistakes(obviously GM did when they built the car)
Explaining to my dear wife that while my route is indeed longer, and I value her input - I just need the extra 'me' time and serenity
Get a new sponsor who is more engaged and less busy, TODAY!
And finally, call a friend who still smokes and tell him I have his belated birthday present and what rock I will leave it under
Forgive, avoid and change behaviors!!
peace
Allowing resentments to creep in - such as when a moderator on SR moves my thread to another forum and I get virtually zero views or comments
Allow anger to get the best of me when guy at auto repair had car all day and only changed oil(even though I explained the issue and made an appointment) - stating "the only guy who can diagnose the issue isn't here today, my bad"
Having a sponsor who is typically unavailable or replies only in 15 words of texts occasionally.
Letting my wife explain the best route for me to take driving home from point A to B, knowing her suggestion will take me directly in front of my favorite old bar and buddies.
And ......now that my head has cleared some, remembering where I put that weed.
How not to fall in the trap;
Apologize to moderator and explain I'm new and will try to post in the most appropriate place
Forgive the auto repair facility realizing we all make mistakes(obviously GM did when they built the car)
Explaining to my dear wife that while my route is indeed longer, and I value her input - I just need the extra 'me' time and serenity
Get a new sponsor who is more engaged and less busy, TODAY!
And finally, call a friend who still smokes and tell him I have his belated birthday present and what rock I will leave it under
Forgive, avoid and change behaviors!!
peace
Member
Join Date: Jul 2014
Location: in the city by the bay
Posts: 605
How to relapse:
Never ask for help with the kids
Try to do everything yourself
Never take time out for me
Over-schedule the kids so all you do is run from school to lessons
Sign up for every dang parent volunteer duty at the kid's schools
Let yourself serve on the PTA executive board
Have ANY liquor in the house (I will find it)
Go to lawyer's house in Napa where he has his own vineyard (and insists you try his wine)
How not to relapse:
No liquor in the house ever
No visits to vineyards in Napa
Ask the kids to help with things
Ask husband to help with things
Don't expect to be "Perfect Mom"
No signing up to volunteer for school positions which suck you dry
Limiting the amount of volunteer work at school
Remember the image of the fat, pudgy person you used to be
Nonsensical Facebook posts that make you cringe
Snarky emails
Remember the facial spider veins you had and paid 2k to get rid of
Never ask for help with the kids
Try to do everything yourself
Never take time out for me
Over-schedule the kids so all you do is run from school to lessons
Sign up for every dang parent volunteer duty at the kid's schools
Let yourself serve on the PTA executive board
Have ANY liquor in the house (I will find it)
Go to lawyer's house in Napa where he has his own vineyard (and insists you try his wine)
How not to relapse:
No liquor in the house ever
No visits to vineyards in Napa
Ask the kids to help with things
Ask husband to help with things
Don't expect to be "Perfect Mom"
No signing up to volunteer for school positions which suck you dry
Limiting the amount of volunteer work at school
Remember the image of the fat, pudgy person you used to be
Nonsensical Facebook posts that make you cringe
Snarky emails
Remember the facial spider veins you had and paid 2k to get rid of
Member
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: North Idaho
Posts: 508
Hunger and fatigue. Those two will get me everytime!
And trying to be the 'Dad' of all my friends. I have that reputation. Too many responsibilities on top of my work activates the AV, and I can drink to 'take the edge off'.
I like this thread. Learned a few things!
And trying to be the 'Dad' of all my friends. I have that reputation. Too many responsibilities on top of my work activates the AV, and I can drink to 'take the edge off'.
I like this thread. Learned a few things!
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