Quick advice needed
Quick advice needed
I'm at a crossroads with a friend/acquaintance.
This is a person I used to meet at a bar, met her at a bar, and we've never done anything but.
She contacted me not too long ago and wanted to meet for a drink. I told her I quit, and she offered lunch instead. Thing is...
I have this icky feeling about meeting her. I really just don't want to.
But I don't want to do a lot of stuff. So usually I force myself to because I think that before I'd do that as a way of avoiding people. I'm finding myself more and more wanting to hang out with my new AA friends. I'm much more at ease with them.
Should I still meet her for lunch??
This is a person I used to meet at a bar, met her at a bar, and we've never done anything but.
She contacted me not too long ago and wanted to meet for a drink. I told her I quit, and she offered lunch instead. Thing is...
I have this icky feeling about meeting her. I really just don't want to.
But I don't want to do a lot of stuff. So usually I force myself to because I think that before I'd do that as a way of avoiding people. I'm finding myself more and more wanting to hang out with my new AA friends. I'm much more at ease with them.
Should I still meet her for lunch??
Hi Sapling. The problem with my gut feeling is that I just don't know it anymore. Not that long ago my "gut" was really my alcoholism, keeping me isolated and doing the same thing, not growing personally. So now I don't know the difference. If it's my gut or my old alcoholic voice.
No and no. I guess I never really thought of it that way. Thank you so much for putting that in perspective for me. I was concentrating more on my old urge to isolate. Even when we drank together I didn't care much for her. But this time I thought maybe it was me.
Yeah, I should know better. I did drop all of my old drinking buddies. This one wasn't part of that crowd so I was thinking she was different. But I just realized, I don't like her anyhow! I won't enjoy hanging out with her.
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Hey Lost3000,
If you don't like her, don't meet her. If you think that meeting her will lead you into old habits, don't meet her.
I wouldn't recommend isolating yourself, but, from what you say, you're not if you have the passion to meet up with AA friends.
It's up to you. If you don't want to, don't. What you need to ask yourself is will you regret not meeting her?
Personally, I think it sounds like she was the type of person the old you would acquaint themselves with, and the new you wants to focus on new things and people.
If you don't like her, don't meet her. If you think that meeting her will lead you into old habits, don't meet her.
I wouldn't recommend isolating yourself, but, from what you say, you're not if you have the passion to meet up with AA friends.
It's up to you. If you don't want to, don't. What you need to ask yourself is will you regret not meeting her?
Personally, I think it sounds like she was the type of person the old you would acquaint themselves with, and the new you wants to focus on new things and people.
This sounds right. I went to the mtg and am glad I did. I don't regret not meeting her for lunch. Thanks so much!
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