soberlicious

Yes...oh and Hi Itchy )
I would tell them to stop trying to figure it all out before you quit and just stop now for good, and figure the rest out as you go.
I would also tell them in no uncertain terms:
... you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think... "

soberbythesea

As someone who went 8 months sober in the past and is now all the way back on day 8 (sigh), I would say -- Remember why you're quitting. Don't forget and think you can go back to "moderation." It won't work and you'll just end up having to deal with the same problems later on.

nonblondechef

Sobriety = shame-lessness

JustBreath

The overwhelming feeling of needing your vice WILL pass and eventually dissipate into a foggy undesirable memory.

It does get easier, give it time.

2granddaughters

At the end of March, my friend Mitch celebrated 46 yrs sober in our home group.

We had a cake and sang "Happy Birthday", then the chairman asked Mitch to say a few words..............
Mitch smiled and without hardly pausing said "Keep coming back" .. and sat down.


So the one thing that I would tell the newcomer or person struggling is what a good oldtimer with 46 yrs just told us recently "Keep coming back".

All the best.

Bob R

england

give it 100% and your life will improve

jstar

Try not to look to far into the future, just worry about NOT drinking/getting high for Today. Think about tomorrow, tomorrow. "One day at a time"

sissy07

Quitting drinking will never get easier....only harder. Things will never get better.....only worse. Quit killing yourself and stop right now. You have no idea what you are missing....stop wasting time....face life head on right now. If I can do it (and love it)anyone can.

onlythetruth

If I could tell them one thing it would be:

Commit to abstinence, NO MATTER WHAT.

Boleo

It is not life that gets easier. Life's challenges go on and on. What does get better is our attitude toward fear adversity and failure. We no longer see these from the perspective of a victim, we start to see them from the perspective of a student.

"That which does not kill you makes you stronger".

Snozoo1

At one point in my life, I felt very close to God. After many, many relapses he just seems farther away. It's almost like he doesn't want to here from me. Perhaps he has giving me too many chances to get my crap together. I guess I'm really confused. Quite broken actually and don't know where to turn. I don't want to be chained to my addictions. I need help

Zencat

Welcome to the forums of SoberRecovery.com Snozoo1.

Hang in there Snozoo, recovery if for everybody that needs it. I don't know about God but if you need to be recovered you can do that. Your here at SR, that's a good start. Why not introduce yourself to the SR community with your own thread in this forum: Newcomers to Recovery (NR). Your currently replying to another SR members thread in NR. Just click → HERE to start your new thread in NR.

No single recovery program is appropriate for everyone. Find where you fit and work it.