Not sure about AA
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Join Date: Jun 2011
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Originally Posted by Threshold 
I responded to a thread of yours a little while ago, I didn't know all the ins and outs of your story.
I had a sponsor tell me she wouldn't work with me after a relapse as well, her sponsor told her to drop me. Some people feel they must do that for their own recovery/sobriety. What I am saying is try not to take it personally. I know how hard that is but she did it for her own reasons.
Work on your own recovery and find a sponsor who you feel you can work with, even through the tough stuff.
I had a sponsor tell me she wouldn't work with me after a relapse as well, her sponsor told her to drop me. Some people feel they must do that for their own recovery/sobriety. What I am saying is try not to take it personally. I know how hard that is but she did it for her own reasons.
Work on your own recovery and find a sponsor who you feel you can work with, even through the tough stuff.
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Originally Posted by Dano1975
In my opinion if you can't be there to help your sponsee after a relapse, you're not ready to be a sponsor.
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DOn't let one person ruin your entire experience, there are some people in AA who have big Egos and like to think they're helping but they aren't really. I reccomend you talk to other people instead of him, and try out other meetings as well. Groups are different in different places. 
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Originally Posted by TheTinMan
The attendees at an AA meeting were the former attendees at a bar. You should have the same feeling for the range of characters you will encounter in an AA meeting.
If you have been to a number of bars through the years then you know these people already. They should be familiar to you.
If you have been to a number of bars through the years then you know these people already. They should be familiar to you.
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it is certainly possible to recover outside AA, but your post reads that you had a negative encounter with one person. surely you understand that one individual isn't indicitive of an entire group, particularly one as diverse and comprised of flawed people as AA.
I would also add that the AA program isn't the people or even the meetings. the program is the 12 steps. I had all kinds of issues, mainly with the people when I first came along. and I struggled staying sober. once I actually did the steps I experienced the personality change and spiritual awakening I heard about. I also learned that my prior attitudes toward the program were what we call contempt prior to investigation.
whatever you do I wish you a healthy and peaceful journey into recovery.
I would also add that the AA program isn't the people or even the meetings. the program is the 12 steps. I had all kinds of issues, mainly with the people when I first came along. and I struggled staying sober. once I actually did the steps I experienced the personality change and spiritual awakening I heard about. I also learned that my prior attitudes toward the program were what we call contempt prior to investigation.
whatever you do I wish you a healthy and peaceful journey into recovery.
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