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Suicide
One of our AA members commited suicide today.
He was sober for over a year and a very wealthy
and well respected businessman in our small town.
This really screwed with my head. I always hoped
to be like him. I've only been sober for four months
and thought having a year was "over the hump"
RIP my friend.
He was sober for over a year and a very wealthy
and well respected businessman in our small town.
This really screwed with my head. I always hoped
to be like him. I've only been sober for four months
and thought having a year was "over the hump"
RIP my friend.
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Originally Posted by 06yz125 
One of our AA members commited suicide today.
He was sober for over a year and a very wealthy
and well respected businessman in our small town.
This really screwed with my head. I always hoped
to be like him. I've only been sober for four months
and thought having a year was "over the hump"
RIP my friend.
He was sober for over a year and a very wealthy
and well respected businessman in our small town.
This really screwed with my head. I always hoped
to be like him. I've only been sober for four months
and thought having a year was "over the hump"
RIP my friend.
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I understand how this could be messing with your head. That's why in AA they say never to place another member on a pedestal, not even your sponsor. Because underneath it all we are all just human beings.
Take care.
Take care.
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That's such sad news - I can imagine how you feel. I'm sure your friend wouldn't want to be the cause of your sadness & confusion, though.
Prayers for you and your friend - going up.
Prayers for you and your friend - going up.
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I agree with 24hrs, if you're still struggling in society after a period of time, reach out, seek some further help. I had a psychiatric assessment and evaluation, very glad I did those things, rather than just try to accept a depressed state. I'm very sorry for the loss of your friend, and I know that things like this are disconcerting, I've had several people I looked up to as 'mentors' of sobriety relapse. What it demonstrated to me is that it's a fairly level playing field. You have to focus on your own sobriety, for yourself.
After two years, I still have a few ups and downs but I can manage them, they're not as extreme, I can go for days without even thinking about drinking anymore. Once I would've thought this impossible. So I can't emphasize enough, whatever it is, seek help - emergency help if necessary, as I've done myself on occasion. I'm very glad I hung in there.
After two years, I still have a few ups and downs but I can manage them, they're not as extreme, I can go for days without even thinking about drinking anymore. Once I would've thought this impossible. So I can't emphasize enough, whatever it is, seek help - emergency help if necessary, as I've done myself on occasion. I'm very glad I hung in there.
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I am very sorry for your loss. One of my parents (also an alcoholic), committed suicide a few years ago. It is heartbreaking to see what this disease can lead to. No one should ever feel desperate enough to take their own life, we all deserve a chance at a happy life. You are and will be in my thoughts.
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Though it is always sad and frightening when someone takes their life, please don't let this interfere with your own recovery. What I mean is that it may well have had nothing to do with drink at all, or his sober time etc.
It is not a sign that sobriety isn't a worthy goal, or the program is faulty, none of us know what this man was dealing with in his personal life or inside his head.
Life is life, and it keeps happening sober or not.
We will see people die in the program and it does serve as a wake up call, as others have suggested, to address issues as they arise, but not to let ourselves feel defeated.
It is not a sign that sobriety isn't a worthy goal, or the program is faulty, none of us know what this man was dealing with in his personal life or inside his head.
Life is life, and it keeps happening sober or not.
We will see people die in the program and it does serve as a wake up call, as others have suggested, to address issues as they arise, but not to let ourselves feel defeated.
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