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Old 02-09-2012, 06:12 PM   #1 (permalink)
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One of our AA members commited suicide today.

He was sober for over a year and a very wealthy
and well respected businessman in our small town.

This really screwed with my head. I always hoped
to be like him. I've only been sober for four months
and thought having a year was "over the hump"

RIP my friend.
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Old 02-09-2012, 06:15 PM   #2 (permalink)
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So sorry for the loss of your friend 06yz125.
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Old 02-09-2012, 06:20 PM   #3 (permalink)
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One of our AA members commited suicide today.

He was sober for over a year and a very wealthy
and well respected businessman in our small town.

This really screwed with my head. I always hoped
to be like him. I've only been sober for four months
and thought having a year was "over the hump"

RIP my friend.
sorry for your loss.. sadly this does happen sometimes. in and out of A.A. it happens most often when people hold everything inside and don't tell anyone what is REALLY going on.
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Old 02-09-2012, 06:25 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Old 02-09-2012, 06:43 PM   #5 (permalink)
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i'm sorry 06yz125, my thoughts are with you.
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Old 02-09-2012, 06:44 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I understand how this could be messing with your head. That's why in AA they say never to place another member on a pedestal, not even your sponsor. Because underneath it all we are all just human beings.
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Old 02-09-2012, 06:57 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Old 02-09-2012, 07:01 PM   #8 (permalink)
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I'm really sorry for your loss 06yz125.
The human cost of addiction is just horrific.

prayers for your friend and all who knew and loved him.

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Old 02-09-2012, 07:17 PM   #9 (permalink)
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That's such sad news - I can imagine how you feel. I'm sure your friend wouldn't want to be the cause of your sadness & confusion, though.

Prayers for you and your friend - going up.
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I agree with 24hrs, if you're still struggling in society after a period of time, reach out, seek some further help. I had a psychiatric assessment and evaluation, very glad I did those things, rather than just try to accept a depressed state. I'm very sorry for the loss of your friend, and I know that things like this are disconcerting, I've had several people I looked up to as 'mentors' of sobriety relapse. What it demonstrated to me is that it's a fairly level playing field. You have to focus on your own sobriety, for yourself.

After two years, I still have a few ups and downs but I can manage them, they're not as extreme, I can go for days without even thinking about drinking anymore. Once I would've thought this impossible. So I can't emphasize enough, whatever it is, seek help - emergency help if necessary, as I've done myself on occasion. I'm very glad I hung in there.
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Old 02-09-2012, 08:38 PM   #11 (permalink)
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No AA is ever over the hump, it's a daily reprieve.

Prayers for your friend and your Group.

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Old 02-09-2012, 09:43 PM   #12 (permalink)
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sorry.....very sorry.
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Addiction Plays for Keeps as a friend of mine use to say.

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Old 02-09-2012, 11:12 PM   #15 (permalink)
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I am very sorry for your loss. One of my parents (also an alcoholic), committed suicide a few years ago. It is heartbreaking to see what this disease can lead to. No one should ever feel desperate enough to take their own life, we all deserve a chance at a happy life. You are and will be in my thoughts.
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Old 02-09-2012, 11:14 PM   #16 (permalink)
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Sorry to hear about that...It may or may not have had anything to do with being sober or not.....People that have never had a drink or drug commit suicide...It's always sad to hear.
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Old 02-09-2012, 11:16 PM   #17 (permalink)
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You are absolutely correct Sapling. It is very sad no matter how or why it happens.
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Though it is always sad and frightening when someone takes their life, please don't let this interfere with your own recovery. What I mean is that it may well have had nothing to do with drink at all, or his sober time etc.

It is not a sign that sobriety isn't a worthy goal, or the program is faulty, none of us know what this man was dealing with in his personal life or inside his head.

Life is life, and it keeps happening sober or not.

We will see people die in the program and it does serve as a wake up call, as others have suggested, to address issues as they arise, but not to let ourselves feel defeated.
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Sorry to here about your friend. It takes time to get over these things and sometimes it is hard. I feel your pain. Love and Respect. Logo
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So so sorry for your loss!!
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