Dee74

Doesn't mean I was a hermit HF

I reconnected with old sober friends, I re-engaged with old hobbies and started new ones, I did some volunteeer work - my life was actually pretty full.

I just made the commitment to change my life re alcohol and the places and things I used to do.

D

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Dee74

I will reconnect with some old friends after at least 3 months. Now I can't face anyone.

I will think about hobbies, I like translating. Not a hobby, but something to do in the beginning.
As of volunteering, I would like to walk someones dog on weekends.

Still no excitement, Dee74. But I will wait...

Sapling

I was terrified...But I had to do a lot of things that scared me....This was my life I was looking at. I look back now.....I was scared of nothing. Hang in there HF...Sounds like you are doing great...Keep it up...You'll find your way...Just don't pick up the first drink.

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Sapling

Today I got stressed because I told someone that Im constantly cold. And thats true, no matter what I wear, Im cold all the time.
So that person reacted strangely saying that something is wrong with me

Can you imagine if I revealed my secret... scary.

Sapling

What secret?

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Sapling

My addiction to alco.

Sapling

I'm not saying you have to carry a sign around...But you know what...If you said you were trying to recover from alcoholism to someone....It would probably bother you more than it would bother them...You'd be surprised at the reactions you'd get. Don't drive yourself crazy over it.....You're doing the right thing. And there is nothing wrong with that.

MustStop

If you enjoy walking dogs you can go to the shelter and walk those dogs. Win for you and a win for the dogs

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Sapling

I will keep this secret at least for 5 months. And even after 5 months I will not advertise that. Im shy and don't like telling my stuff to anyone.

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MustStop

Wow fantastic idea! Dog shelter! Yes! Bingo.

Dee74

I think pride and shame are two sides of the one coin.

My pride kept me from getting help for a long time, HF - eventually my drinking got so bad, all my secrets were revealed anyway.

It's your call - I think you'd feel a great sense of relief getting some help and support, but it's your decision.

whatever way you decide to play it, stick to your commitment and stay sober

D

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Dee74

I got into this trap on my own and I will get out of it on my own. If I tell anyone, they will start asking too many questions. And then test me I really can say not to a drink.

A while ago I told one of mine and she said that I was crazy, because there is nothing wrong to have a drink or two or more according to her. Well I did not expand about my binging at home. Since then I decided to keep it to myself.

Sapling

Watch out for those people...The Normies.

MustStop

When my friends told me "you can have 1 beer" I said, do you have 12 more to go with it?

They got the point and I didnt have to say much else as to why I was quitting drinking.

Hevyn

The Normies don't get us. I can see their eyes glaze over when I try to explain.

yellieee

Hi! Whenever I start to worry about my future I just remind myself that it is my addiction talking. Saying that you need to drink to be at a party or at a family event is your mind making excuses for you to use/drink. Even if a large majority of the people are drinking/using, alot of them will end up in the bathroom sick or hung over the next morning. There are advantages to being clean/sober, you just need to get past the routine of drinking/using before you can begin to see them.

Good luck in your journey, it's hard but worth the effort!

Yellieee

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yellieee

To avoid all the possibilities to see the drink in front of me I have isolated myself from everything and everyone. Im not going to visit anyone until Im ready.

Not happy about it, but I don't see another way.