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By the way, a little factoid I picked up: guess what fact about a person is the biggest predictor of them successfully quitting drinking?
It isn't the program they go to.
It isn't the amount of meetings they go to.
It isn't having a sponsor.
It isn't having a homegroup.
It isn't going to rehab.
It is: Being married.
It isn't the program they go to.
It isn't the amount of meetings they go to.
It isn't having a sponsor.
It isn't having a homegroup.
It isn't going to rehab.
It is: Being married.
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90 meetings in 90 days came out of rehabs. Nowhere in the big book is there even the slightest hint of that.
I have 3 meetings a week available to me and I often only make one.
It's about finding balance, especially if you are a single parent like I was too.
I have 3 meetings a week available to me and I often only make one.
It's about finding balance, especially if you are a single parent like I was too.
Onlythetruth,
Does this mean if you are in a marriage and you want the marriage to stay together that you would even give up drink as AVRT suggested. I could see that working for some people.
I think quite a few people would be turned off by some of the members in AA or any organization. But some of these same members would be just the ticket for others.
Mac keep up the good work.
CaiHong
Does this mean if you are in a marriage and you want the marriage to stay together that you would even give up drink as AVRT suggested. I could see that working for some people.
I think quite a few people would be turned off by some of the members in AA or any organization. But some of these same members would be just the ticket for others.
Mac keep up the good work.
CaiHong
Numerous studies have been done on the factors that are highly correlated with abstinence from alcohol, however. And what these studies show is that the factor most highly correlated with successful abstinence is being married.
So the sponsor would have been far more accurate to ask the OP her marital status, and tell her that unless she was married she didn't have much of a chance!
To stay stopped requires you to be doing it for you. Doing it for someone else can work for a starting point.
That motivation is actually about self. One can stop for someone else but they won't stay stopped. The motivation through fear of loss is about fear of losing something YOU have not fear of the other person losing something they have.
To stay stopped requires you to be doing it for you. Doing it for someone else can work for a starting point.
To stay stopped requires you to be doing it for you. Doing it for someone else can work for a starting point.
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Originally Posted by MAC3911
maybe I am being a bit harsh on her but I would like to think there is a life at the end of the tunnel and not just back to back meetings for the rest of my life!
Originally Posted by AVRT
Contrary to what some may say, it is entirely possible to quit "for someone else" or for one's family.
Really??? Watch me...
and I did just that
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Originally Posted by programmatic
The motivation through fear of loss is about fear of losing something YOU have not fear of the other person losing something they have.
but, yes I see your point. However, the fact that I don't drink for myself and my children is so intertwined for me that the whole "it's really ultimately for me even though it started for them" argument is like splitting teeny hairs...it's moot.
I apologize for my annoying habit of double posting LOL
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