New here- taking the plunge
Edwardm
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Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Midwest
Posts: 80
New here- taking the plunge
Right now I probably feel the same as most who post for the first time and that's scared to death. I've been sober since Sunday.
I have read numerous other stories and mine is nearly the same. I am 49 years old and the alcohol slowly crept up on me over the years. I'm married, my wife and I drink nearly everyday (boy, it's hard not to lie here because I've done it so many other places). I am taking the first step because I've mentioned quiting before and think I need to get myself in order. We never drank when the kids were young. As the years went it was a few beers on the weekend with friends; the kids get older and its beers on the weekend and maybe wine with dinner or a cocktail after work to relax. The kids graduate college and it's a whiskey and Coke before dinner, wine with dinner, and another whiskey before bed. I've done everything like others here. I say I won't drink on weekdays, but I do. I've made numerous attempts to quit and never make it more than a week, lately is getting worse. I have a good tolerance and rarely have a hangover. I do however feel very depressed the morning after I drink.
I have a great job, good friends, and want to be the man everyone thinks I am. My co-workers know I drink, just not how much. I never drink and drive but it's amazing how you plan around the drinking. I have so much guilt. I quit for 3-4 days and tell myself how great I feel, then I drink. I work out almost everyday but still drink at night. Someday I will have grandkids and don't want to be the drunk grandpa. Frankly, I would refuse to watch them if I was drinking. I couldn't trust myself to help them if they got hurt.
Anyway, enough for right now. What I need at this moment is someone to tell me not to drink tonight and stay strong. I am really worried about the weekend. I got a book at the library to read at night (can't read when your drunk) and I play the piano and got some new sheet music (can't play when your drunk)
Thank you to everyone here. Writing this was the biggest weight off my shoulders.
I have read numerous other stories and mine is nearly the same. I am 49 years old and the alcohol slowly crept up on me over the years. I'm married, my wife and I drink nearly everyday (boy, it's hard not to lie here because I've done it so many other places). I am taking the first step because I've mentioned quiting before and think I need to get myself in order. We never drank when the kids were young. As the years went it was a few beers on the weekend with friends; the kids get older and its beers on the weekend and maybe wine with dinner or a cocktail after work to relax. The kids graduate college and it's a whiskey and Coke before dinner, wine with dinner, and another whiskey before bed. I've done everything like others here. I say I won't drink on weekdays, but I do. I've made numerous attempts to quit and never make it more than a week, lately is getting worse. I have a good tolerance and rarely have a hangover. I do however feel very depressed the morning after I drink.
I have a great job, good friends, and want to be the man everyone thinks I am. My co-workers know I drink, just not how much. I never drink and drive but it's amazing how you plan around the drinking. I have so much guilt. I quit for 3-4 days and tell myself how great I feel, then I drink. I work out almost everyday but still drink at night. Someday I will have grandkids and don't want to be the drunk grandpa. Frankly, I would refuse to watch them if I was drinking. I couldn't trust myself to help them if they got hurt.
Anyway, enough for right now. What I need at this moment is someone to tell me not to drink tonight and stay strong. I am really worried about the weekend. I got a book at the library to read at night (can't read when your drunk) and I play the piano and got some new sheet music (can't play when your drunk)
Thank you to everyone here. Writing this was the biggest weight off my shoulders.
Englishrose70
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Melbourne
Posts: 190
Edward, dont drink tonight, its a toxic friend you no longer need.
We can do it, just for tonight and as for tomorrow, well you concern yourself with tomorrow, whe tomorrow comes of course. Right now, this sober second, minute, hour is all that counts
We can do it, just for tonight and as for tomorrow, well you concern yourself with tomorrow, whe tomorrow comes of course. Right now, this sober second, minute, hour is all that counts
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Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: New York City
Posts: 221
Drinking ain't all that...
Once I quit, I wondered why I didn't sooner! Like you, I am using music (guitar) as an important part of my program. Keeps my mind engaged at night and I can play an electric while watching television.
Welcome aboard and don't drink tonight! It's really worth it.
Once I quit, I wondered why I didn't sooner! Like you, I am using music (guitar) as an important part of my program. Keeps my mind engaged at night and I can play an electric while watching television.
Welcome aboard and don't drink tonight! It's really worth it.
Edwardm
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Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Midwest
Posts: 80
Thank you for the encouragement
I would like to thank everyone for their words of encouragement. It's coming to that witching hour (it's funny, I never crave a drink during the day, but after work it's awful, and one always leads to another) I promise myself and all of you that there will be no alcohol tonight. Just to hear someone else tell me not to drink is amazing. No one has ever done that and I'm sure alot have thought about it.
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Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Mississippi
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Welcome! As everyone has said, take it a minute, hour or day at a time. If we can do it, you can to! Yes, it's scary at first, but it's also wonderful to wake up feeling better each day and seeing the depression and anxiety fade.
We're all here for support!
We're all here for support!
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