SF73

I am a returning member to AA and new to this site.

My dilema is my drinking friends are also co-workers who keep asking to go out for drinks. So far I have told one I'm on a diet but she is very insistent. How do I best handle when asked? I need to protect my sobriery and my reputation at work. Thank you.

suki44883

I have always been a big fan of honesty. You don't have to go into any details, but when asked to go out for drinks, just tell them that you've decided to stop drinking. If they continue to pressure you, just reiterate that you have decided to stop drinking and then walk away. No one has the right to pressure someone to do anything and you do not have to allow it. If you are consistent in your refusals to go, eventually they will stop asking.

totfit

Just say you found drinking is not agreeing with you much and you don't do it any longer. I don't see how this can hurt your reputation. Sometimes we make a bigger deal out of it than it really is. I don't know how not drinking has ever harmed anyone's reputation in any "real" way, but drinking however.........

SF73

Thank you for the responses. I know I need to be true to myself and be honest.

Dee74

I tell people I don't drink.
If it's someone from my past, I may add I don't drink anymore.

Noone really needs an explanation IMO but 'for my health and well-being' is a good all purpose and true response

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artsoul

Welcome! Congratulations on getting sober! I agree with the others.... I found that I could be honest without the gory details. If it's someone I know that I drank with, I'm just telling them that when I drank, I never stopped at one and I found that I didn't like the way I felt the next day. I've only had one person I had to tell that to, and they said "yeah, I know what you mean. I probably need to stop too."

Stick around for support - it's a great place!!!