TOPIC: Behaviors In Recovery. Good or Bad
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Location: Baton Rouge, La.
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TOPIC: Behaviors In Recovery. Good or Bad
Hi. Im Sharon. I am an Alcoholic
here in Baton Rouge, La. and
have had continuous sobriety
since August 11, 1990.
How is your behavior in recovery?
Do you think you have good or
bad behaviors?
Are you still rude, selfish, gossipy
of others just to boast ur own selfish
egos?
In order to make urself look
better than another you belittle
others? Make them look small,
less than?
Or in recovery you are learning
compassion. Thinking of the other
persons feelings before ur own.
I often slip back into old behavior
and have to do a check list to get
back on track.
Just because someone else is
mean or cruel, doesnt mean I
have to get back at them to be
even. How about you?
Does your behavior put u on
top of the list or bottom?
Just thoughts to think about.
here in Baton Rouge, La. and
have had continuous sobriety
since August 11, 1990.
How is your behavior in recovery?
Do you think you have good or
bad behaviors?
Are you still rude, selfish, gossipy
of others just to boast ur own selfish
egos?
In order to make urself look
better than another you belittle
others? Make them look small,
less than?
Or in recovery you are learning
compassion. Thinking of the other
persons feelings before ur own.
I often slip back into old behavior
and have to do a check list to get
back on track.
Just because someone else is
mean or cruel, doesnt mean I
have to get back at them to be
even. How about you?
Does your behavior put u on
top of the list or bottom?
Just thoughts to think about.
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Thread Starter
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,240
We see other peoples behaviors
right in our own backyards.
Schools. Grocery stores.
Right in our own AA, NA,
Alanon meetings.
Do we take other peoples
inventories when we don't
like what they do or say?
Do you take them when
they are not present to
defend themselves and
their actions?
No one is perfect. Right?
Or do you think you are?
I learned in recovery that
it's not striving to be perfect
but rather progress to be
better in all areas of our life.
In other words, accepting
those with good or bad
behaviors or in other words
character defects.
Show a little kindness to
people you know or dont
know. People you see or
dont see. Especially here
in SR.
right in our own backyards.
Schools. Grocery stores.
Right in our own AA, NA,
Alanon meetings.
Do we take other peoples
inventories when we don't
like what they do or say?
Do you take them when
they are not present to
defend themselves and
their actions?
No one is perfect. Right?
Or do you think you are?
I learned in recovery that
it's not striving to be perfect
but rather progress to be
better in all areas of our life.
In other words, accepting
those with good or bad
behaviors or in other words
character defects.
Show a little kindness to
people you know or dont
know. People you see or
dont see. Especially here
in SR.
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Location: Kent, England
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I am in early recovery however when I first started I was very angry at myself and everyone around me. I have felt myself getting a lot calmer. I imagine once I get some clean time behind me I will be able to see my own personality in a much clearer light.
Tom
Tom
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Location: Victoria
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Thanks for the post Sharon, 
l think l am a much better person in sobriety and definately have more tolerance for others who may do things a little different to me.
For me accepting l am an alcoholic has given me a greater acceptance of others, l have always tended to be a bit hard on myself and if it wasn't done perfectly....well it just wasn't good enough!
but gradually l'm learning my best effoert are all l can give. Oh l have days where l can be quick tempered and frustrated but so do people without addiction!
When you live your life in a world of illusion it is good
to know which door to go through to get back to reality.
l think l am a much better person in sobriety and definately have more tolerance for others who may do things a little different to me.
For me accepting l am an alcoholic has given me a greater acceptance of others, l have always tended to be a bit hard on myself and if it wasn't done perfectly....well it just wasn't good enough!
but gradually l'm learning my best effoert are all l can give. Oh l have days where l can be quick tempered and frustrated but so do people without addiction!When you live your life in a world of illusion it is good
to know which door to go through to get back to reality.
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Location: Baton Rouge, La.
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Our reactions to good or bad
run right into our behaviors.
The way we react to something
negative. Like someone saying
something offensive to us. Something
that is not true especially when
they don't know us personally.
Our behavior reacts accordingly
to those positive or negative
remarks.
If something is said nicely
to us we react in a loving
caring thankful way. With
a hug or a nice jesture.
Handshake or kiss.
Great positive behavior.
Someone says something
mean or hurtful we react
with defensive moves or
words.
We want to beat the u know
what out of them. Cuss. Or
even drink or use in many
of our cases.
Over the past 20 yrs. if my
behavior is good or bad I
dont reach for the posion
of alcohol or drugs to reward
myself, but rather pass on
positive ways Ive learned
in recovery.
I also have to remember
that my actions and behavior
reflect on the kind of person
I have become in recovery.
Not everyone will like me and
I wont like everyone. However
I like myself the person I have
become and if im honest in my
behaviors then the person looking
back at me in the mirror is a happy
joyous and free person in recovery.
run right into our behaviors.
The way we react to something
negative. Like someone saying
something offensive to us. Something
that is not true especially when
they don't know us personally.
Our behavior reacts accordingly
to those positive or negative
remarks.
If something is said nicely
to us we react in a loving
caring thankful way. With
a hug or a nice jesture.
Handshake or kiss.
Great positive behavior.
Someone says something
mean or hurtful we react
with defensive moves or
words.
We want to beat the u know
what out of them. Cuss. Or
even drink or use in many
of our cases.
Over the past 20 yrs. if my
behavior is good or bad I
dont reach for the posion
of alcohol or drugs to reward
myself, but rather pass on
positive ways Ive learned
in recovery.
I also have to remember
that my actions and behavior
reflect on the kind of person
I have become in recovery.
Not everyone will like me and
I wont like everyone. However
I like myself the person I have
become and if im honest in my
behaviors then the person looking
back at me in the mirror is a happy
joyous and free person in recovery.
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