HIgby442

Today I am at 230 days sober and cannot believe how happy I truly am now. The other day I posted a thread on how to socialize better now that I am sober. Lastnight I had an opportunity to test that our. For the first time in my life, I no longer care what "other people" are doing, and what is popular etc. Lastnight I was me-the real deal. And I was really happy to be presenting the person I am, not masked or amped up by some other substance.

I think a big part of my sobriety has been about realizing that what other people do is inconsequential to my actions. Other people can drink, good for them. I cant-and I am good with that and no longer want it.

For the first time in my life I am stopping to smell the roses so to say. I notice all the good things in life that I would have otherwise have missed. I am taking more advantage of all the opportunities around me. I listed to what others have to say.

I believe that I have made it through another part of accepting where I am in recovery because I no longer feel like my actions need to be in line with what others around me are doing. I no longer make the distinction between "them" and "me". I am just happy doing my thing, and working on the steps each day.

Life is great

Ghostly

Awesome HIgby. I am glad it went so well. Sounds like an enlightening experience for you. It really does. I think your post will help others that will face those situations. Nice new Avatar too. That you?

Congrats on your sobriety. You are inspiring.

trixieisme

I know the feeling. When I was 18, I started line dancing. When I was 21, drinking and dancing started going hand in hand. Once I quit drinking, I was really concerned about my ability to go to the country bar and still dance, without being tempted to drink. But, I made myself do it. And it was the most awesome thing I can remember experiencing in a long time. Not only that, but I was able to sit there and watch all these drunk, obnoxious girls, and know that I was not acting like that. Before, perhaps I was usually heading in that direction, more and more with each shot. But not anymore. I feel so lucky to have something that I am so passionate about that it is able to outweigh my drinking addiction and career. Without that, the SR community, and the friends that I have come to make in AA, I know that I would not be able to say that I have been sober since 7/11/2010.

LaFemme

Great post...thanks! I have my first big sober social event tonight and hearing that gives me a big boost of confidence!

HIgby442

Thanks man! Nah not me in the avatar-I would not be as graceful but I have done hills like that. I love to ski!

HIgby442

Hey I wont even say best of luck at your event tonight becuase I know your going to be fine and its going to be an awesome time! Have a blast and enjoy that feeling on your way home because you will feel: Thankful, happy, proud, and motivated for all that is to come.

Enjoy!

lildawg

I'm so glad you're so happy in your sobriety, HIgby. It's taken me a bit longer than you, but I'm getting there in terms of not seeing sobriety as a negative punishment.

With the help of the nice folks here at SR, I think I've gotten a new lease on my sobriety. If I keep moving forward, I might even be able make my three year anniversary at the end of this year.

CarolD

Thanks for sharing your solid progress and good news with us!