sfgirl

I just went to a Dharma Punx meditation thing the other night and the guy speaking mentioned a book he was reading. I checked it out online and it turns out Google books has a pretty extended preview. So far it seems like a pretty good book for the recovering person, even though it is not specifically for people in recovery. It is called The Five Things We Cannot Change by David Richo. For those who are curious here are those five things:

1. Everything changes and ends
2. Things do not always go according to plan
3. Life is not always fair
4. Pain is part of life
5. People are not loving and loyal all the time

It really is about accepting life on life's terms or reality for what it is, however you want to say it. I like how it is written though. Just thought I'd put it out there:

The Five Things We Cannot Change ... - Google Books

sfgirl

I was just looking up the author and it seems that he has a free download on his website of a compilation of parts of his books. I'll put up the link just in case it is helpful to anyone— no idea if it is good or not:

Human Becoming by David Richo, PhD

Faerie

Sounds helpful and interesting Babe, I'll check it out.

Thank you,

Love

Faerie x

tommyk

"It really is about accepting life on life's terms or reality for what it is..."

It seems like I have to 're-learn' this often.

I keep 'forgetting'.

Good topic, thanks.

Tazman53

Great stuff, those who have peace & serenity seem to have a great acceptance of those 5 things.

Quse56

Ooooh did you like the Dharma Punk meditation? My exhusband turned my onto noah's stuff before he passed away (My ex, not Noah).

Aysha

This is along the lines of things I have been reading and learning here lately.
I am always glad to find new things like this. Thx.

sfgirl

It was good. I am spoiled though. We have a lot of buddhist recovery meditation things here in the SF (by a lot I mean one every week at the zen center, the dharma punx thing, a monthly one by my house, prob more that I am not even aware of). That was the first time I had been to the Dharma Punx one and the talk was sort of loose— the guy just sat up there and talked off the top of his head. I am more used to going and having the people have prepared talks and reading from books and stuff— I personally like that better. I think it is good to change it up though. And the book he referenced is really good and helpful. And I happen to be feeling really serene right now....so maybe it isn't all that important how much I liked it. They seemed to have a strong community (sangha) there. I'm def going to go some more because different people talk at different times and they meditate for a longer period of time than other places. I am really excited because in two months Kevin Griffin is talking at one of the buddhist mediation things I go to

Quse56

Thanks! There is a Buddhist 12 step meeting abotu 30 minutes from my house... I am going to try it out.

sfgirl

If you are anything like me you will end up loving it! Let us know how it goes.

NewBeginning010

Thanks SF, I just went to the site & started reading it. It is a very nice introduction, I will read further when the work crew outside stops making all of that noise lol.