splendra

:wtf2Some might think this is about are you serious about recovery. It's not, well kinda it is. What I am asking here is:

• Are you a serious person?
• Do you take yourself seriously or not?
• Do you seriously consider your actions?
• Do you care how others feel?
• Do you care what others think of you?
• Can you laugh at yourself?

Now so this can be about recovery... do any of these aspects of being serious or not affect your recovering?

Aysha

I try not to be too serious. If I am being serious. Most people will know it. Otherwise I am just a goofball.

I never take myself seriously. I bust on myself more than anyone. You gotta laugh at yourself sometimes. And if someone else busts on me. I will laugh too. I like it. Unless they are just being mena or disrespectful. Then "Serious: Trish will rear her ugly head. LOL.

I never considered my actions for as long as I could remeber. But I do now. Not everytime. But I have learned to most of the time. Saves alot of problems and apologies.

I do care how others feel. More so than myself at times.

I really dont care what anyone thinks of me. Unless it is my family or someone that is a part of my life.
I dont want people thinking I am an idiot or something like that. But as far as people passing judgment and things like that. I could care less. Until someone is living my life..paying my bills or supporting me. Then their opinion doesnt matter. And that only petains to a negative situation.

I am always laughing at myself.

It all affects my recovery. I cant be too serious. Too sensitive. Or worry about what the next person is doing.
, saying or thinking about me.
My actions are not as reckless. So that definately helps in my recovery. And thinking before I open this big mouth of mine has been the best lesson I have learned.
I need to keep the focus on myself.

mle-sober

I'm probably too serious.
I probably take myself too seriously.
Sometimes considering my own actions and their effects keeps me tied up in knots.
I care deeply how others feel, contrary to the standard idea about what an alcoholic is like.
Unfortunately, I care a lot what others think of me.
I sometimes have to be prompted to laugh at myself.

I think being deeply engaged in my life, spiritually, emotionally, and psychologically helps me be brave and committed to my recovery. And that deep engagement is a characteristic of my serious nature.

Interesting questions!

Bamboozle

Someone once described me as being a "walking circus." If I'm around, something funny or stupid is bound to happen.

Being able to laugh (especially at myself) helps a lot. I'm serious about not taking myself too seriously.

Aysha

LOL..A walking circus..I like that.

splendra

I do love to laugh at myself. I know I would have died a long time ago if I had not been able to see humor in my own life.

I haven't ever really cared what others thought of me either least I stop being myself.

I have really cared about other peoples feelings all my life one I am learning to deal with is when they do not like me.

I have to stop caring about people who feel like they do not like me even though they don't really know me or I haven't done anything to cause them or their family any harm.

I haven't willing and with intent ever set out to harm another human being. However, I have said things that have hurt others because I did not think before I spoke. I am always willing to apologize when I know words or deeds have hurt another.

I do not allow someone else making a judgment against me based on how I look or something they think about me even if it is true keep me from feeling okay about myself.

I try to keep my actions in check least I do something unnecessary or uncalled for. I am really careful if I am walking or driving to watch where I am going.

Being that I am prone to both sides of the addiction coin I know I have said and done things that have hurt people whom I love the very most and wouldn't want to hurt; both when I was a drunkard and a druggie and when I have watched loved ones over indulge in drinking and drugging and wanted to lash out to them for what they have done to me and the relationship.

All people who are close to addiction get hurt the addict and the loved ones. This is something I need to pay a lot of attention to if I intend for these relationships to heal. It will help me heal if I work to understand my loved ones. Saying I am sorry to our loved ones and being man or woman enough to really mean it and let my actions show it are the dream of the co-dependent and the icing one the cake for an addict in recovery. Because sweet sweet love is what we all want it is the thirst of everyone's very soul.

We are made that way.

Rusty Zipper

wow, how'd i miss this one...

splend, not saying i wasn't the king of self-centeredness...

i believe for me, not being too serious about anything was one of my survival skills that kept me from dying...


now, for me, its Good Old Rule 62

i aint that important, we are!

IO Storm

Now..we are talking recovery here, right? Because what I am now is almost an

antithesis of what I was before. I couldn't stand it if I thought someone

didn't like me. Yet I was causing chaos and wreckage. I railed against other's

actions..not considering my own.

The difference today..of course, is sobriety first and foremost.

The big difference!!

There is no self control, no ability to self examine without that...

I am learning "restraint of pen and tongue"..slowly. Not too good at it..but

getting there. And I speak of patience, tolerance, and kindness..but it is hard

to practice. It seems I'm tested on that a lot! But..I know this. I do own up to my actions.

I care how others feel, and will begin to obsess and say "I'm sorry".

I usually go overboard into the "bowing and scraping" part..but my sponsor

is helping me in that area as well.

Can I laugh at myself? Oh yeah...oh yeah.



And thanks Rust..I never even knew about Rule 62 until I met ya.

And thanks for the thread, Splendra!

adore79

I can find humor in anything and everything, even in things where it is inappropriate to find humor. Unfortunately, it is often cynical humor, which is a negative thought, and contributes to my feelings of low self worth.

Just because I can find humor in something doesnt mean I think it is funny though, and in those cases I can seem very serious.


On a scale of 1-10, 1 being not at all, and 10 being very much so:

* Are you a serious person? 5
* Do you take yourself seriously or not? 6
* Do you seriously consider your actions? 2
* Do you care how others feel? 5
* Do you care what others think of you? 10
* Can you laugh at yourself? 3

*the following statement about God is not meant to offend anyone*
I think lack of seriousness has really gotten in the way of my recovery up till now. When you believe that life is just a joke that God is playing on you, you tend not to be very ambitious or care about much in life. But at the same time I have many fears that I can find humor in, but that I still am unable to deal with in a healthy way.

Eleison

I tend to be very serious, and take things overly seriously, if anything. I care how others feel, except when I'm in alternate personality state, then, no. When I'm in 'my right mind', yes.
I care what others think of me. I've been the target of ridicule and stigma over the years, and that has ... effected me.
I can't really laugh at myself. Because others have laughed at me in ridicule. And, well.
But... I am learning to laugh... my therapist supported me in laughing today.

splendra

Thank ya'll so much for the replies and for reading. I found this link on humor in recovery that I thought you might enjoy so enjoy okay...okay@#*

Two Dogs Blogging: Laughter is good medicine

Fulldresser4

A little off topic, but Splendra, when I saw your post, I thought..what a great idea, someone writing pretending to be two dogs blogging on the state of humanity and all the inane things us humans do...shows my head is a little twisted, huh?

But I did enjoy the post on that blog..thanks!

Emimily

Am I serious? When it's appropriate... otherwise, no.
Do I take myself seriously? Again, when it's appropriate... but mostly not.
Do I seriously consider my actions? Today, I try to be mindful of how they will affect my welfare and the welfare of others.
Do I care how others feel? Of course, but I don't live my life for others.
Do I care what others think of you? I do, but not to an extent where I will people please or change to be liked.
Can I laugh at myself? OMG yes. And if I don't, my friends will.

nickishine

Thanks mle-sober!

Summed it up for me!

IO Storm

clap clap clap clap

Supposed to be applause Em...

Fantastic!!!!!

splendra

I know that one is true in my case as well...

IO Storm

Thanks for the reminder...again.

BUTTERFLY-7

Do I take my self Serious well it all Depends,

I'm Serious, about my Recovery that's for sure
I'm Serious, When I'm around People who I know are very Toxic,and Insane,
I'm Serious, when I study my Environment, and Surroundings, that means
I have my antennas up. lol!!

But anything else takes a Number Life is too short and Beutiful
to be too Serious you Got to Enjoy Life.....

IO Storm

Great post Butter!

Rusty Zipper