mike13

at my sponsors request, i've been tryin to connect with more people at my meetings. ive gotten a few numbers but i have no idea what im supposed to say when i call these people. sorry if this sounds like a stupid question. im just not used to having normal conversations wit people that dont revolve around buyin drugs.

Rella927

Mike not a stupid question..some meetings have a sheet that goes around with peoples phone numbers..

If you are having a difficult time and need to call someone just start by that you are Mike from the meeting and I was wondering if I could get your insight on (whatever you may be struggling with) and the rest will just flow...

Most who get a call from another meeting member are thrilled that they can offer any support or experience they may have! Getting to know everyone is very helpful on the road to recovery.

Good Luck

CarolD

The members who give their numbers to newcomers
really want you to call. All you need say is
Hi..I'm new to NA and you gave me your number"

The first time I did this I too was nervous ...
we talked about a new movie that had come out.

The idea behind calling just to say hello is to begin
making new friends Then...should you hit a bad spot
you will have contacts to call before you use again.

It's not a stupid question at all.
Best of luck on your journey...

bostonluv

Doesn't sound like a stupid question to me. The above sounds like good advice.

NoelleR

My sponsor had me doing a similar exercise when I was new in recovery (the only exercise she ever had me do, actually....lol).....getting at least two new phone numbers at each meeting I attended, and speaking to three people each day (and answering machines didn't count...hah).....

....Luckily for me, I didn't have to actually have conversations with these people (and you probably don't either); when a live person answered, I could just say, "Hi, this is Noelle, and this is one of my AA calls for the day," and then I would usually hang up............quick...... See...? simple, and I REALLY love simple..........lol The point of the phone calls was to prepare me to automatically pick up the phone and dial if/when it was necessary.


NoelleR

Taking5

This is all great advice so far. I might add that it is NEVER a bad time to call. It is our duty as members of NA/AA to be there when someone needs help.

This helps keep US sober, so you would be doing US a favor if you did call.

It doesn't matter if we know you or not either. Just call before you pick up a drink or drug.

Rusty Zipper

another thing calling is for, as i tell my sponsees...

call someone, and ask how "they" are...

its a simple beginning to learn to get out of self...

TryingSoHard

NOT a stupid question at all! I'm glad you asked because I've been wondering pretty much the same thing. I have some numbers from people at my meeting, and I just can't imagine actually calling one of them yet. What on earth would I say?? Would they even know who the heck I am?? I'm glad I HAVE some numbers, in case I really do need them, but I'm not sure at this point if I could actually use them. If that makes any sense. LOL

scaredykat

It's not a stupid question Mike. You got a lot of good advice. That phone does weigh a 1000lbs but once you start calling people and talking about whatever it does get a little easier for when you really need them. I now have a lot of good friends that i call.