myrole

I 'm not sure where to go, just so u know upfront my spelling sucks, so here is a bit of what's going on.
Spouse is in drug court, messing up there, lying (shocker) an in county jail awaiting to see which treatment center they pick for him.
I am feeling very resentful, bitter, angry and ect... I'm suppose to support him through this recovery and want to know who is going to support me.
Why am I being told it's important to have me involved in the recovery, why if I don't really know if this is what he wants, it's being court ordered and I was led to believe you needed to do it for yourself.
When I asked what makes this time different, he hung up on me.
That's just the tip of the "meth-berg", that's what I call it, please guide me in the right direction.

Ananda

Yes - you are right you need support for yourself...tht is where your focus needs to be! I really recommend that you check out the family and friends section. there is a lot of really good support for you there. Of course i support you too! but they may have more helpful expereince to share with you

I'm glad you have come here and are willing to share.

thanks.

CarolD

You might consider finding a local support group for yourself.
Nar alon and Al anon are both free
and for the family and friends of addicts.

Welcome to SR...

mrssez

hi myrole, my hubby is also an addict and i can relate to how you are feeling.Definitely check out the 'friends and family of substance abusers section' as mentioned above as there is a lot of info in there you will find useful. Post regularly if you feel it helps. Best of luck xx

Anna

I hope you are able to find support for yourself.

Rella927

Welcome to SR so glad that you found us!

What you are going through is tuff and sorry that it is happening to you-
There is a lot of support here and as Carol said checking out those groups
could benefit you as well!

Please check out our other forum "Friends & Family" as there are stickies
at the top of the forums that are loaded with a wealth of information!

Good luck to you and glad that you are with us-

HeavyJ

Hang in ther Myrole, You can find a lot of friends here to listen. I'm listening...

Heavy

AWdesign

Hang in there, and definitely go to the friends and family support. It will help you focus on you and not his problems. Although court ordered, some people need that push to realize how absolutely wonderful recovery is, I'm one of them and I have been sober eleven months and definitely been through some things without using. Sometimes we have to "detach with love" which means love your husband but let him figure these things out on his own. Good luck!:bounce

Daddio

Good words already. Welcome to SR. Keep posting and letting us know how you are doing.

myrole

Thanks for the replies, I'll go check it out......