hope3

This is a great free way to see if you would like this book, Under the Influence...

but I've read both Under the Influence and Beyond the Influence, and if I were to

choose just one, it would be Beyond the Influence. Both are written by Katherine Ketcham, and uses a lot of other resources and such..

Best wishes, hope3

CarolD

Thanks Hope...

I have not read " Beyond the Influence"

I can no longer read
it's not out in audio books so I can not compare.


Nan...I have not had a drink since I read
"Under The Influence"
I hope you will soon be able to join me
on this fantastic sobriety adventure!



Blessings

GlassPrisoner

Welcome Nan !

The peeps over at the secular forum might be able to help you. I know SMART and LifeRing are two alternatives.

Another AA here. It worked for me, or I should say it's working for me.

I'm glad your not so hard and fast on the control thing. Funny thing is, when I quit struggling, it got easier. Kind of like one of those Chinese finger cuffs, or quicksand. It's really counter intuitive, surrender to win, etc, but like I said, it works really , really well for me.

nan07

I just ordered "Drinking: A Love Story". I read an excerpt online and it really hits me where I live. Her description at the beginning is tantalizing...how she describes the condensation on the bottle, the sound of the cork popping...and how she thought alcohol was a friend she could not imagine living without. If she could drop this "friend" despite all of it's attractions, perhaps I can too. The book will be arriving on friday...

Rowan

Let us know what you think of the book - it impacted me tremendously. I've gone through several copies - always end up giving mine away to other women alcoholics -it's too powerful not to share.

Change4life

Welcome Nan I am also 46 and relate entirely to your feelings of romanticizing the booze, but when your an alcoholic thier aint no romance that is for sure. once you realize you need to drink its time to break up from our romantic partner alcohol.
I havent read most of these, but they are on my need to read list.

"drinking: a love story" by Caroline Knapp

"Happy hours" by Devon J

"The secret of the soul" by Gary zukav

"A kind of blue" by Nick Johnston

"Dry" by Augusten Burroughs

"The dark night of recovery"

"12 steps on Buddhas path" by laura S

I dont know if any of these are on audio.

Welcome to SR and good luck to you!

nogard

Welcome to SR nan, I hope you find a solution as the drinking solution did not work. I can't remember last time I sipped or had a quiet wine, so nothing left to feel whimsical about and thats our addiction talking. I remember the insanity, jails, institutions and the overdoses it lead to and the freedom I experience today and am grateful I live in the solution and not the problem.

Kevin

Anna

The first time I read Drinking: A Love Story, I could hardly put it down to breathe. I was still drinking, but it was definitely the book that made me believe I could do it too. It is deeply honest and raw and real.

I'm going to send you a link by PM.

ontrackagain

Nan,

Ther best "primer" into alcoholism for me was "Sober for Good". It discusses all sorts of treatment options and what people with long term sobriety have in common, regardless of the path they haven chosen.

CAS116

First of all, there is an upper limit to moderate drinking.
12 servings per week for a man; 9 servings per week for a woman; no more than three servings at one time.
Second, if you are able to do that, it is not a problem unless you decide that it is. It is your call.

Third, it may be that you have 'unfinished business' which leads to you to believe that excessive alcohol consumption is a 'good idea'. If so, it seems wise to look into that.

Last, alcohol is not a necessary substance.

GlassPrisoner

Heck, I'd have that by lunchtime most days.....