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Rinnie's Grandpa
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Pylesville Maryland
Posts: 1,273
Welcome Sunrose...
I'm only a few days here myself, but I feel like I've found a new home with new friends...
Many, many good people here that can relate to what we're going through...
One day at a time.
Steve
I'm only a few days here myself, but I feel like I've found a new home with new friends...
Many, many good people here that can relate to what we're going through...
One day at a time.
Steve
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Vancouver BC
Posts: 6
Need some advice/your thoughts...
I was 'googling' being involved with an alcoholic & found this site again. The posts were so good that I decided to sign up not realizing I signed up long ago but didn't use this site anymore. I've never been on a site like this before.
The reason I write to you now is that I'm sure a lot of you feel the same as me. I seem to always date men with alcohol/possible addiction problems. My father was a severe alcoholic & he passed away from complications of that(cancer) 10 years ago. My parents were divorced, but I still cared about him even though he didn't really care about me & my sister or his son that is in overseas.
Even though I don't want to, & understand that women seem to pick men like their father's(& I know better), I still seem to be attracted to men & their problems don't have such a big impact on me. Guess I'm used to dealing with it since I grew up with a father who had a bad alcohol problem that I tried to help him with my entire childhood/life. It was very devastating for me watching him destroy his life & he was a professional who was very talented at his career.
My main question is, are there any of you who feel you don't really deserve a good partner & that's why you even think it's ok, I can handle his addiction cuz I grew up with it???
I'm not really seeing this person anymore because I've seen signs of a very bad alcohol problem which is sad because he has a great career as well, nice apartment, etc.........I can't really understand how someone who has it 'all together' can have such a big problem, I don't understand how you can drink so much & maintain a good career, nice place, etc??????
I would really appreciate you feedback & sorry for such a long post, I just kinda feel heartbreak a little cuz I'm kinda mad at myself for not beleiving I deserve better.
(thankyou for all your great posts that I just read, they really helped me a lot)
The reason I write to you now is that I'm sure a lot of you feel the same as me. I seem to always date men with alcohol/possible addiction problems. My father was a severe alcoholic & he passed away from complications of that(cancer) 10 years ago. My parents were divorced, but I still cared about him even though he didn't really care about me & my sister or his son that is in overseas.
Even though I don't want to, & understand that women seem to pick men like their father's(& I know better), I still seem to be attracted to men & their problems don't have such a big impact on me. Guess I'm used to dealing with it since I grew up with a father who had a bad alcohol problem that I tried to help him with my entire childhood/life. It was very devastating for me watching him destroy his life & he was a professional who was very talented at his career.
My main question is, are there any of you who feel you don't really deserve a good partner & that's why you even think it's ok, I can handle his addiction cuz I grew up with it???
I'm not really seeing this person anymore because I've seen signs of a very bad alcohol problem which is sad because he has a great career as well, nice apartment, etc.........I can't really understand how someone who has it 'all together' can have such a big problem, I don't understand how you can drink so much & maintain a good career, nice place, etc??????
I would really appreciate you feedback & sorry for such a long post, I just kinda feel heartbreak a little cuz I'm kinda mad at myself for not beleiving I deserve better.
(thankyou for all your great posts that I just read, they really helped me a lot)
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Upstate, N.Y.
Posts: 4,639
Hi Sunrose and welcome to SR.
Here's the link to Family and friends on SR.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ly-alcoholics/
Keep reading and posting. This is a great site to get information and lots of support.
Barb
Here's the link to Family and friends on SR.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ly-alcoholics/
Keep reading and posting. This is a great site to get information and lots of support.
Barb
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