aasharon90

Hi Im Sharon and Im an alcoholic.

By the Grace of my HP and people like
u here in SR i havent had a drink of
alcohol since 8-11-90. For that Im
truely grateful.

I thought about this topic this
morning. Whose running ur life?
Whose in charge of ur life?
Who do u answer to?

And whose the driver in ur car?
Or, whose the passenger?
Pilot or Co-Pilot?

Lots of times i want to be the
boss either at home or at work.
Well..not "the boss boss" ...those
people have to much responsibility
and its more than i really want to deal
with. I mean i have my hands full
just trying to keep my own life in
order.

Of course being a mom, Domestic
Engineer, chauffer, shopper,
confidonte, friend, employee
recovery alcoholic, wife, and more....
I do feel like I have a lot of responsiblity
at hand....yet i believe that i can't
completely run my life without help
from Something or Someone.

Help and guidance from my HP. Help
from my spouse. Help from my children.
Help from my friends. Support, love and
care from those I depend on. Like you.

Whose driving my car? Whose the pilot
or co-pilot in my car?

Often I like to be in charge, control.
Of couse i dont have a good sense
of direction and therefore need help
in navigation. There r times that i
can imagine my HP in the passenger
seat...my Co-Pilot directing me.


What about u....?

marle

Sharon, I used to think that I was the pilot of my life. Since my daughter's addiction and my spiral into codependency, I was forced to realize that I could no longer handle that position. Nothing like addiction to force a person to realize that control is just an illusion. Now I put my trust in God and let him take care of the things that I should not be trying to take care of. I feel like my co-pilots are the people on the Nar-anon forum. They are such wonderful people and are always willing to listen and offer their experience to me. Thank you for the thread. Marle

doorknob

Sorry Miss Underwood... nobody's going to take the wheel for me, so I had better hang on and stay focused.

Luckyv2

We are responsible for our own recovery! I know that we all have different ideas, perceptions, etc, but ultimately if I am not in my own recovery then I have none. That doesn't mean that I do it alone either We each have each other to bounce things off of, sponsorship for some and not for others, 12 steps for some of us and not for others, HP for some of us and not for others, but inside each of us is where it happens.

Love Vic

Arura

For me I know that the Change has to come from inside me as the external part of my life is created from my internal perception of the World...!
like i create my own future by the choices i make thro life... , Maily wrong one's but you live n Learn dont you...!

I have found that i have been a co pilot in my life a few times n I surpose it's easyer to let someone else drive, your life....another cop out teq...!
Its the esayest thing to fail, the hardest thing in life is to sucssed...at whatever that maybe.! You define your own life by your choices and actions...!

You do have to take control of your own life as,....it's Your's.!
Its a headless chicken without a driver,...!

Unless you win the Lottery...?!!! and then,..well im off to live in the hill's...

Hanging on Tight,...to mine even tho other's try n push me off it...!
Im at the stage of fighting for that control over my choices n actions not been decided by other's...!
Its my Life n ive wasted enough I Want to Live my life,...Thank You...xXx...!

barb dwyer

that's something I have to stop and ask myself repeatedly throughout the day.

I thought that was the deal.

I know it was the deal I made with HP ennyhoo....

Found

My late mother has so often been the copilot - even if only in my head. I now recognise her as autistic like I am. She adapted well but not well enough (who does? ) and Dad didn't help redress the balance enough (again, who does? ) so now it's more change time for me and I'm getting a good feeling out of that.

best

There were times I would put God in the passenger seat and would have said he is my co-pilot. I like how you put it..with all that we do, He directs but that would make Him the pilot, not co-pilot. I may be sitting in the drivers seat but He is telling me what direction I should take. I truly like how you put it. God is in control and we are doing the work. If He was just the pilot and we were going along for just a ride... well we need do our part in life.
On the days I am in the drivers seat...He is my control tower.
On the days I am weak... He will fly the plane.
His love is the beacon that guides us. As long as I stay on course and follow His beacon, I will be safe and land with a smile.

jooser

Sometimes, I am not too sure who exactly is in charge....know whut I mean?



Not to make light of your thread, I am endeavoring to be more that person "in control". That is half the battle for me!

doorknob