Slaybells247

Midton

I’m fortunate in this respect as I live in Asia so I can get it at any supermarket and people often make it themselves. There is also Yuzu which is nice. It might be worth checking out any local Chinese/Japanese/Korean food markets or even ordering online.

It’s really helping me at present as the taste is indistinguishable for me whereas NA beer is personally unpalatable, though I never really liked beer that much to begin with.

Anyway the stuff I’ve been buying is by a company called Choya and the plum wine is called umeshu here. They have an English homepage and I buy the canned sparkling plum drink. Costs about one dollar.

Roi

I stopped drinking in June but I'll join the July class. Feel great but absent minded. It's time!

Slaybells247

Midton

The one I buy is certainly non alcohol.


I didn’t look at the homepage but I’m guessing that some are alcoholic. The one I buy is a can. In the top right corner it says Alc 0.00%. It also says on Japanese non-alcohol and says in the red speech bubble “without getting drunk” .

I’d post a picture but can’t figure out how to.


I’ve sent you a PM with details of how to find the non-alcohol drink(s)

Slaybells247

HA! Love how direct! How could I have missed that?! Thanks for sending me that info!

calmself

End of day 13. Took a risk today by going to the grocery store at wine o clock after my gym. Went through the beer aisle but came out safe. Good salad dinner and now watching a sitcom. Good night/day folks!

NewDayNewMe

Morning all

Day 23 - just checking in quickly as I'm busy with work - still going strong.

Good luck everyone for another sober day.

Andy.

ShenzyT

Good morning everyone.

Quitnow - I was a bottle or 2 of red everynight also …. I totally relate to what you're saying. I take anti-anxiety meds also, to say I was a mess is an understatement. Everything hurts, mental health is a mess, 40lbs over weight. I've got a massive red swollen face. I sit back and think to myself often "who would willingly do this to themselves ??" …. Me !!! because of this addiction. Reminds me of the quote that was spoken about earlier "don't underestimate the power of this addiction" and it's so true....
Well done on day 1 …...


Managed to get some sleep last night …. still feeling pretty rough today...but no booze will be had today ….

Have a good day everyone.
xx

Dee74

Hi guys - we have a policy here of not mentioning brands of/promoting NA beers or wines or whatever, so if you could discuss that by PM I'd appreciate it.

Thanks

Dee
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Finalround

She is not just a social drinker. It's daily. When she gets home from work. When I quit, she will typically stay up til 1 or 2 am watching tv and doing laundry drinking wine. It's hard because I would drink daily too. A few after work to unwind. Get togethers were always much more. Weekends could go 24/7.

When I sobered up last September for almost 7 months, she started catching on and stopped for a while. Only having a glass or 2 at social gatherings. She once told me she was afraid I wouldn't like her if I was sober but we got along great during that time and I really enjoy her company. It wasn't the "rock star partying" lifestyle but it was great. We did things. Not just house visits with the same friends getting hammered.

I get very proactive when I'm sober about finding new and interesting things to do and places to go. So much more fulfilling.

For those worrying about feeling left out or lonely because all your friends were drinking friends, just google "things to do near me". I have found so many things I never thought of doing. Eating, historical places, car shows, food truck rally's (my favorites), free concerts.

Freedom from addiction can open a hole new world for us if we make the effort. I know from experience, getting sober is about action. Making plans, taking the steps, filling your day, challenging ourselves to be more and leave no time for alcohol.

Best description I've heard here on SR about alcohol is that it is a "time thief".

I'm angry that I allowed the last 2 months to go by in a drunken haze. Beginning of spring and summer of 2019 GONE! I can't ever get it back. I had so many plans. God that makes me angry at booze, and myself. Lot of summer left. I'm going to seize it. Make a story book of my experiences. I'm going to live it.

Ok. That's my morning rant. Off to work. Love and strength to you all.

bobdrop

Good morning all! Day 12 here.

FR-My wife has 2 drinks every night and then stops. I have no clue how she does that Anyway, since it happens every night, it's easy to not even really notice. Not sure how that might help you, but your post made me think about it

One thing that I do know is that my eating habits are keeping me from feeling as good as I should. That is something that my wife does understand. I shouldn't be eating sugar anyway, and now I can't find any around the house!

Hope everyone has a great hump day!

KinseyMillhone

FR, I also have a daily drinking spouse. He has better control than I ever did...unless I'm drinking with him and he's trying to keep up. I also avoid him after he's had about 3 or so. He doesn't like to go anywhere that isn't selling beer, so the things we do together are limited to entertainment venues and street fairs. In my sober years, I talked to him a lot about how I was feeling and when I was tempted. He didn't support me by not drinking or go places without alcohol but he did stop offering me drinks and never once expressed a negative opinion on my sobriety. He respected my choice. We were able to live quite peacefully in that arrangement. I found a lot of hobbies to do on my own and find friends to go with me to things he doesn't like.

I haven't been sober for a few years, and have been actively (then desperately) trying to stop. As my drinking digressed I've been more honest about how little control I have and the desire to live sober. That's all I can do- even if I don't get the support I wish for, I'm being honest about what I'm doing and where I'm at. I think it's difficult for someone with their own drinking problem to support sobriety - they have their own private mountain to climb.

Physically, it's been a tough couple of days. Although I felt great over the weekend, I felt like I crashed on Monday. I have a tough week at work and an even tougher weekend trip coming up and I'm sure it has something to do with that. I'm trying to take things easy and focus on each day. The important thing is that I don't drink- I have plenty of time to work on recovery as long as I do the most important thing. Trying not to let my brain make things too complicated! Working on day 12!

I've been enjoying reading everyone's progress- I'm so glad you are here!

Jewel72

Welcome, Roi! Glad you’re here.

Day 2 and I’m so pleased to be starting sobriety again. Tossed and turned a lot last night, but still better sleep than I got with all that wine in my system.

Keep at this class and have a great day. It’s a beautiful summer day here in my area. I’m hoping to attempt a run, catch up on house work (which I’ve put off for 2 months), and get ready to go on a quick trip with the family. No temptation to drink with them. I have told my husband I want to quit, so he won’t allow it and I’ll be in a hotel with my kids. I do not drink in front of them.

Be back later!

venuscat

You are not a hypocrite at all dear Finalround.

We are allowed to change, and sure, that is not always comfortable for our partners, or people in our lives who were our drinking buddies. You are going to think this is nuts, but have you thought about going to Alanon? We can't change other people, but we can learn to deal with their behaviour and choices without it affecting us so deeply. I think this would be my choice if my partner was drinking....I tried other ways when I was in this situation, and it just didn't work out well.

Huge hugs for all of you.

venuscat

So many hugs. xxxx

And if I was you, I would print this out and put it on my fridge. What POWERFUL motivation. s

And I so hear you....I STILL remember being just that ill, and it was 5 years ago almost: it's terrifying. Just so glad you are here with us again dear Quitnow. ♥

Jewel72

Thank you, Venuscat! I will print off that post. Good advice and thank you for your kindness and compassion. It shines through in all of your posts.

venuscat

Reading your lovely post dear Kinsey.....I think your way of looking at this and being in your marriage with your partner still drinking is amazing, but gosh it's hard on you, isn't it? I would need to go to Alanon for the support I wasn't getting at home. With respect. I don't mean that negatively....at all....but maybe it would be nice to to have the support from a group of people who all go through this.

Sorry....not meaning to be bossy at all, just ignore me. s

venuscat

Thank you love. s

Yes, it's mind boggling for sure....we just kept throwing poison down our throats, day after day. And for all of us wine drinkers, holy moly, the chemicals man.....so so many bad bad chemicals in wine....I am 100% allergic to sulphates (as in could kill me) and I STILL drank almost 2 bottles every night. At one very affluent (ha ha, meaning I had a job) stage, I swapped to organic wine.

What a genius. Not. And I didn't stick with it anyway, because the alcohol content was not high enough for me....honestly. (what a moron ).

Now, if you knew you were slowly being poisoned with arsenic, for example, you would expect to feel ill and to have brain issues. I would think. Yet how is what we do to ourselves any different? Of course we lose the choice to stop eventually: WE HAVE BEEN POISONED. No longer capable of well, anything.

I was almost there. Almost. Centimetres from being in a mental institution. I would never have left I don't think.

Alcohol is not just a "time thief" FR....it steals everything. Including our lives.

Walnut1

It’s amazing how productive I’ve been since I quit! Being self employed makes it even better. Another bonus is my preferred IPA was about $14/6er, money saved! Day something and I don’t miss it a bit.