24 Hour Recovery Connections Part 444
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Congrats to our milestoners
Gabe1980 ~ 4 weeks! ♥
CrossYourHeart ~ 1 year & 4 months! ♥
joandmelandhan ~ 1 year & 10 months! ♥
Sorry for your retail experience Whopper. It can be tough keeping your cool in situations like that.
It would be awesome if we could make decisions with foresight like we look back with hindsight Kenton, but we can only do the best we can at the time.
I'm sure your dad loved you and treasured all the times with you and your family growing up and is now looking down on you with so much pride.
Try and not beat yourself up too much - mistakes are how we learn.
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Gabe1980 ~ 4 weeks! ♥
CrossYourHeart ~ 1 year & 4 months! ♥
joandmelandhan ~ 1 year & 10 months! ♥
Sorry for your retail experience Whopper. It can be tough keeping your cool in situations like that.
It would be awesome if we could make decisions with foresight like we look back with hindsight Kenton, but we can only do the best we can at the time.
I'm sure your dad loved you and treasured all the times with you and your family growing up and is now looking down on you with so much pride.
Try and not beat yourself up too much - mistakes are how we learn.
D
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24 please.
Kenton, thank you for sharing such a personal story. I'm sorry that it's a painful memory, and I know it's a tough one when it comes to regret about a parent. I understand what it's like to lose a parent to dementia or Alzheimer's. I'm there with my mom, and I have similar stories of limiting visits or stays that I too regret now. Though I may not have done my best at the time, I've learned from it, and I try to be the better version of me now. Self forgiveness goes a long way for all of us.
Strength in numbers here. Enjoy the day all.
Kenton, thank you for sharing such a personal story. I'm sorry that it's a painful memory, and I know it's a tough one when it comes to regret about a parent. I understand what it's like to lose a parent to dementia or Alzheimer's. I'm there with my mom, and I have similar stories of limiting visits or stays that I too regret now. Though I may not have done my best at the time, I've learned from it, and I try to be the better version of me now. Self forgiveness goes a long way for all of us.
Strength in numbers here. Enjoy the day all.
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Originally Posted by Chaisson 
24 please.
Kenton, thank you for sharing such a personal story. I'm sorry that it's a painful memory, and I know it's a tough one when it comes to regret about a parent. I understand what it's like to lose a parent to dementia or Alzheimer's. I'm there with my mom, and I have similar stories of limiting visits or stays that I too regret now. Though I may not have done my best at the time, I've learned from it, and I try to be the better version of me now. Self forgiveness goes a long way for all of us.
Strength in numbers here. Enjoy the day all.
Kenton, thank you for sharing such a personal story. I'm sorry that it's a painful memory, and I know it's a tough one when it comes to regret about a parent. I understand what it's like to lose a parent to dementia or Alzheimer's. I'm there with my mom, and I have similar stories of limiting visits or stays that I too regret now. Though I may not have done my best at the time, I've learned from it, and I try to be the better version of me now. Self forgiveness goes a long way for all of us.
Strength in numbers here. Enjoy the day all.
I haven't read kent's post yet...just about to. Not sure if you know this, but I was my mother's carer for a few years, and she had Alzheimer's and Vascular Dementia, and other illnesses as well. Just sharing because I have a lot of experience, so if I can help you in any way....feel free to reach out.
I am not alone....unfortunately quite a few of us on this thread have dealt with or are currently dealing with this. It is so so hard. I know.
But there are ways to make it easier on you (the children) and your mum who is going through this.
Gosh, it seems to be women more than men, doesn't it? (Just a thought).
OK....off to read. So much love.
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Originally Posted by BarbieKen
Yep, I'll sign in for the next 24. With gratitude to my HP without which this drunk would not be in Recovery right now.
MY ideas on sheer willpower alone, OR moderating the evenings with NO control wgatsoever Or only drinking the finest wines OR only drinking $2 Chuck from Trafer Joe's, OR any other method my brain came up with ... useless.
I came to a point of just giving up, as others would later call Surrendering. Stopped fighting with my inner self, I knew I wasn't in charge . Was I ever?? I literally spoke aloud to ask the Universe to take over from now on. That was a Sunday night in 2012. The next day I walked into a facility to medically detox. Those glass doors shut and the weight, I truly didn't realize I was carrying, fell off my body, I cried so much. My fight ended right then & there. A wash of RELIEF took over me & my desire to drink has not come back.
I know, know, knew that was & IS the Universe (my HP) doing for me what I could not do for myself. 🌟🌟🌟
MY ideas on sheer willpower alone, OR moderating the evenings with NO control wgatsoever Or only drinking the finest wines OR only drinking $2 Chuck from Trafer Joe's, OR any other method my brain came up with ... useless.
I came to a point of just giving up, as others would later call Surrendering. Stopped fighting with my inner self, I knew I wasn't in charge . Was I ever?? I literally spoke aloud to ask the Universe to take over from now on. That was a Sunday night in 2012. The next day I walked into a facility to medically detox. Those glass doors shut and the weight, I truly didn't realize I was carrying, fell off my body, I cried so much. My fight ended right then & there. A wash of RELIEF took over me & my desire to drink has not come back.
I know, know, knew that was & IS the Universe (my HP) doing for me what I could not do for myself. 🌟🌟🌟
Love you so very much Bobbi.
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Originally Posted by kenton
A few months before my dad got sick, my family and I hired a cottage down by the coast. Friends were going to join us for the second half of the week and I invited my dad to come and spend time with us for the first half. He had a brilliant time. He was great company and loved spending time with the kids. On his last day, he asked me whether he could stay for a few more days. I panicked. I didn't want to upset him but our friends were due to come down later that day. They had 2 kids. There wouldn't be enough bedrooms in the cottage for everyone to sleep. My dad saw my face. He told me not to worry. He said he'd had a wonderful time. He was lovely about it but I knew he was disappointed. He left later that day. A couple of months later, he started to lose his mind. He was detained under the Mental Health Act in a secure psychiatric hospital. He never went on holiday again. Pretty soon, he didn't recognise me or my kids.
This morning, I saw my old friends. The friends who came and spent that second half of the week with us in the holiday cottage. They don't speak to me anymore. After I stopped drinking, they told me I'd changed. I was boring now. Made them feel uncomfortable. They didn't want anything to do with me. I saw them this morning at the train station and they both looked the other way. I could have had a few extra, precious days with my dad. My kids could have had a few extra, precious days with my dad. I try very hard not to have regrets, but I regret the decision I made back then. I was wrong. I'm sorry dad. I'm so sorry. I can't say sorry to your face so I'll say it here. And I promise to learn from this. The people who matter - they will always come first. I will make sure of that.
Happy to hear the appointment went well Phoenix. Great news. Love to everyone and 24 more for me please. Choosing sobriety every day is always the correct choice xxx
This morning, I saw my old friends. The friends who came and spent that second half of the week with us in the holiday cottage. They don't speak to me anymore. After I stopped drinking, they told me I'd changed. I was boring now. Made them feel uncomfortable. They didn't want anything to do with me. I saw them this morning at the train station and they both looked the other way. I could have had a few extra, precious days with my dad. My kids could have had a few extra, precious days with my dad. I try very hard not to have regrets, but I regret the decision I made back then. I was wrong. I'm sorry dad. I'm so sorry. I can't say sorry to your face so I'll say it here. And I promise to learn from this. The people who matter - they will always come first. I will make sure of that.
Happy to hear the appointment went well Phoenix. Great news. Love to everyone and 24 more for me please. Choosing sobriety every day is always the correct choice xxx
♥Darling kent, I know your dad hears you. And now you can forgive yourself.
I wasn't there for months before my mother died....I essentially abandoned my entire family. I believe to this day it is my fault that she had the accident that killed her. That has been hard (torturous actually) to deal with, live with. All I can do is stay sober, and try and be the very best version of myself, and put back into the world the love and care that my mum gave me.
You are such a wonderful person.....I think your dad would be just so incredibly proud of his amazing daughter.
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♥ This is a list of everyone who posted their commitment to stay sober in the last
24 hours: 9 am EDT ~ 8.59 am EDT....(ish
).
It is awesome to have every single one of you here with us! ♥
1newcreation
abcowboy
ardy
Atlast9999
aussieblue
Awake61
Babs1234
Bailey3
badgerden
bandicoot2
BarbieKen
beerbgone
Bubovski
BuffyDog
Canadian Koala
CeeFarro
Chaisson
ChloeRose63
Citrus
Coco6054
Coldfusion
CrossYourHeart
Daisybelle
Dee74
Delilah1
dpac414
Endoftheday
erfra7
Fallow
Finalcall
FoieGras
FormerBeerLover
Gabe1980
gatorman
Gilmer ♥RIP♥
Goat
goodbyeevan
goose333
Guener
H379
Hats
Hawkeye13
Hevyn
ImNotThatGuy
jimmyJlover
joandmelandhan
John65
julietUK
katlin
Kaneda8888
kenton
kevlarsjal2
Kris47
KTB5000
Lascaux
least
LillianGish
lilymaz
listae
Lostmyoffswitch
lyddie
Mags1
Minion09
Neoo
Nic233
nmd
OliveDog
Optimist4ever57
PhoenixJ
Pinky1
Purplrks3647
Quincy
quitter62
Rainman1
RedBerryJuniper
Saskia
soberista
SoberLeigh
Soberwolf
Solarion
stargazer016
STHATHEMMAD
Sunflower79
Sunflowerlife
Sweetpeacan
tgirl
theVman31
time2LLL60
Tinker B
trudgingagain
TrueNewGirl
Tynesider22
Upstairs
vanaprastha
venuscat
Vinificent
whopper
wiscsober
Willow68
yukonm
Zanna
zeppodog
zoeydog
Onward together! ♥
♥ thank you dear abcowboy. ♥
24 hours: 9 am EDT ~ 8.59 am EDT....(ish
).It is awesome to have every single one of you here with us!
♥1newcreation
abcowboy
ardy
Atlast9999
aussieblue
Awake61
Babs1234
Bailey3
badgerden
bandicoot2
BarbieKen
beerbgone
Bubovski
BuffyDog
Canadian Koala
CeeFarro
Chaisson
ChloeRose63
Citrus
Coco6054
Coldfusion
CrossYourHeart
Daisybelle
Dee74
Delilah1
dpac414
Endoftheday
erfra7
Fallow
Finalcall
FoieGras
FormerBeerLover
Gabe1980
gatorman
Gilmer ♥RIP♥
Goat
goodbyeevan
goose333
Guener
H379
Hats
Hawkeye13
Hevyn
ImNotThatGuy
jimmyJlover
joandmelandhan
John65
julietUK
katlin
Kaneda8888
kenton
kevlarsjal2
Kris47
KTB5000
Lascaux
least
LillianGish
lilymaz
listae
Lostmyoffswitch
lyddie
Mags1
Minion09
Neoo
Nic233
nmd
OliveDog
Optimist4ever57
PhoenixJ
Pinky1
Purplrks3647
Quincy
quitter62
Rainman1
RedBerryJuniper
Saskia
soberista
SoberLeigh
Soberwolf
Solarion
stargazer016
STHATHEMMAD
Sunflower79
Sunflowerlife
Sweetpeacan
tgirl
theVman31
time2LLL60
Tinker B
trudgingagain
TrueNewGirl
Tynesider22
Upstairs
vanaprastha
venuscat
Vinificent
whopper
wiscsober
Willow68
yukonm
Zanna
zeppodog
zoeydog
Onward together! ♥
♥ thank you dear abcowboy. ♥
May 30, 2019
TrueNewGirl ~ 4 weeks! ♥
Pinky1 ~ 1 month! ♥
Lostmyoffswitch ~ 3 years & 8 months! ♥
TrueNewGirl ~ 4 weeks! ♥
Pinky1 ~ 1 month! ♥
Lostmyoffswitch ~ 3 years & 8 months! ♥
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Originally Posted by PhoenixJ
Prayers and support, Leigh- your pm box was full last I looked
Going in soon for what, hopefully be the last time, outpatient appointment in the Burns Unit for a hand review.
Going in soon for what, hopefully be the last time, outpatient appointment in the Burns Unit for a hand review.
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24 more for me please & thanks.
Great Smart meeting today at Rehab. I have also been offered a place on a mindfulness course starting next Friday and I grabbed the offer with both hands, I think it will be good for me. To top it all off we were treated to double chocolate chip muffins, I tried to not have any, but impossible I love chocolate muffins
Congrats to Milestoners & My thoughts & prayers to you if you are struggling or suffering today.
Much Love 24'ers, hope your day has been a good one. SP
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Great Smart meeting today at Rehab. I have also been offered a place on a mindfulness course starting next Friday and I grabbed the offer with both hands, I think it will be good for me. To top it all off we were treated to double chocolate chip muffins, I tried to not have any, but impossible I love chocolate muffins
Congrats to Milestoners & My thoughts & prayers to you if you are struggling or suffering today.
Much Love 24'ers, hope your day has been a good one. SP
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Dropping this in for KTB5000 s
Not sure what is happening re court, but wishing you all the best love. s
s
Originally Posted by KTB5000
33 days today.
.getting ready for court...
But I'm here for another 24 (wrong thread)....
But I just wanted to wish you all a wonderful day...
I truly enjoy & gain so much support from this site...
Even in the shadows at times
...bye 4 now <3
.getting ready for court...
But I'm here for another 24 (wrong thread)....
But I just wanted to wish you all a wonderful day...
I truly enjoy & gain so much support from this site...
Even in the shadows at times
...bye 4 now <3
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Trying to get through another 24. Really struggling today. I think other times I have developed a good plan to avoid cravings but today caught me off guard. I work from home and didn't have enough to do today, so I have just been hanging out mostly. Then I get bored and think ah I want a drink. So badly.
In an hour I go to the gym and I have personal trainer and that should tire me out and hopefully help.
I keep thinking just one or two. But I can't stop at that anymore. It's ******** to think I can.
Anyway trying for another 24 here!
In an hour I go to the gym and I have personal trainer and that should tire me out and hopefully help.
I keep thinking just one or two. But I can't stop at that anymore. It's ******** to think I can.
Anyway trying for another 24 here!
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